MIL Telling parents I want to join the military?

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  1. gman427

    gman427 New Member

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    Before I begin looking really deep into enlisting, I need to tell my parents I want to, and want them to be some what ok with it.
    Throughout my life, they would tell me not to join the military, but I just feel I should for the experience, and the fact it will help me with the other jobs I might want, something in Criminal Justice is just another plus.
    Do you have any advice on telling them?

    Also, I have been thinking of doing Indirect Fire Infantry Man, or an Infantry Man, MP, or even Special Forces if I can.
    I have been in shape my whole life, well I think so. Here is what I can do.
    1 mile run - 6:15 minutes
    2 mile run - 14 minutes (probably do better, not sure.)
    3 mile run - 22 - 23 minutes.
    pull ups - 16 (I start from a dead hang, then I go up pass my chin, then I go all the way down back to a dead hang)
    pushups - 65 in a minute(around there)
    situps - 100 in 2 minutes
    Proably could do better when it really counts.
    I am still doing some research, and have not set my mind on anything, so any suggestions would be appreciated.

    I am not going to go to a Recruiter just yet, until I get the "ok" by my parents. I've heard from some friends Recruiters can be really pushhy at times. In the end it is my decision. :hsd:

    If I do decided to enlist, I will need to get Lasik, which is something that might keep me from joining the military. I can't imangine going back to glasses, I had been using contacts for a while now, and it made my life easier.
     
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    if you enlist the army will pay for you to get laser surgery to fix your eyes after you get to your unit.

    i don't have any tips for telling the parents, for me i just asked for my birth certificate and social security card and when they got "all up in my grill, dawg," i told them because i need them, and eventually they figured it out and i never flat out said i wanted to join. 3 years later and i really don't care if my parents approved me of enlisting or not, it's what i wanted to do
     
  3. Jyokker

    Jyokker The trouser snake is very aggressive. It will corn

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    You should sit them down one night after dinner and tell them "I just feel I should for the experience, and the fact it will help me with the other jobs I might want, something in Criminal Justice is just another plus."

    If they start to get defensive, ask them to be supportive and understanding. If it seems like it starts to get heated, ask to talk to them later about it when things cool off.
     
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    My dad was a royal marine commando so he didn't have a problem when I wanted to join, my mother on the other hand :mamoru:

    Just tell them its really what you want to do and that it'll help you later on etc

    Your numbers look good, try to up your total pushups to 100, after that start adding weight to your back or move your hands under your shoulders so you can see your fingers just poking out if you're doing wide grip pushups now, this will help your triceps. And of course one can always run more.
     
  5. jjski78

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    If I may ask, why are you just looking at the Army? If you were looking at the Navy or Air Force it would probably be easier for your parents to accept, if you're really worried about what they think. Nothing against the Army or the Corps, but 99.99999% of the time, nowadays, if you tell your parents you want to join one of those, the first thing that pops into their mind is a flag draped casket. Tell them you want to join the Navy or Air Force, and that thought is fairly distant. Plus all branches have stuff related to Criminal Justice.

    I just told my parents I was joining, and told them when I was leaving for basic. It was a clandestine operation. They had no idea until about 2 months before I left. Not that they had a problem with it. My Dad was Navy for 8 years, my uncle was Navy for 22, my maternal Grandfather was in the Army in WWII and has a steel plate in his head courtesy of the germans, and my paternal Grandfather was in the Air Force in Korea. My older brother was also in the AF for 4 years. So military service is a bit of tradition in my family.
     
  6. brackac

    brackac Fuck all of this. OT Supporter

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    Fuck that, it's your life.
     
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    you'll be able to make 1 phone call at boot camp, that would be the best time
     
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    :rofl:



    I told my dad I was going to MEPS with the recruiter.. He was in the Marines so he knew what that was... Told my mom for me and came back enlisted. Told them both and they were both cool with it and that was that lol. I'd been talking about it for a while though so they weren't really surprised I enlisted.
     
  9. gman427

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    Well thanks for the advice, ihave decided to tell them the next time we eat dinner together:)
     
  10. Casino

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    O man I could go on for days about how badly my parents are taking it. Every night my parents watch TV in their room, so when I told them, I waited until they were there and went up. Sat down and said I need to talk to them and that I decided I'm joining the Army. They took it very badly. Told me I killed the family, they cannot believe I'm related to them, don't want to know when I'm killed, cut off all financial support, etc. Hopefully your parents will take it better than mine!

    Good luck!
     
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  11. Jyokker

    Jyokker The trouser snake is very aggressive. It will corn

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    Sounds like some immature parents.
     
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    They don't listen and don't care about anything I say. They are selfish and only care about how it will affect them, not me.
     
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    :bowrofl: ah.. the memories. thanks for the laugh.
     
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    you should write goarmy.com commercials
     
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    Don't tell them you want to join the military. Tell them you did join the military.
     
  16. brackac

    brackac Fuck all of this. OT Supporter

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    Do you know this person?
     
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    It's her gimp
     
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    Sounds like you are the spawn of liberals.
     
  19. RoAcH CoAcH

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    my parents enjoy the concept.
     
  20. MrRyan

    MrRyan Gary Johnson 2016 OT Supporter

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    My mom told me that if I died and they handed her the flag she would throw it on the ground and spit on it.

    Good Luck!
     
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    they are glad to get you out of the basement
     
  23. Twisted STi

    Twisted STi All wheel or no wheel OT Supporter

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    my father 'suggested' I join the military by putting a clause in his will cutting me off if I hadn't. Dick.

    worth it though :mamoru:
     
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  24. brackac

    brackac Fuck all of this. OT Supporter

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    My neighbor was my recruiter. He already had my contract ready for when I turned 18, and my father drove me to the station on my birthday. Lets just say I didn't have much of a choice.
     
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