telling her what to do?

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  1. nerd9

    nerd9 OT Supporter

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    just started seeing a new chick and she told me that she likes "being told what to do"

    it seems obvious enough but i need some advice on what kinda things she wants to hear, any thoughts? i've never done this type of thing before :noes:
     
  2. lauren

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    shes submitting to you, so you just tell her/make her do what YOU want.
    or she could be topping from the bottom. :noes:


    also, think about this. girls commonly read erotica more than watching it. the story/verbalization/words/etc are hot.
     
  3. Yail Bloor

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    decide what you want her to do

    give her the order
     
  4. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    example

    "I want your ass in a thong, in the air, right now."

    "Get on your knees and suck my cock."

    Say it firmly and look her in the eye.
     
  5. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    You mean sexually?
     
  6. nerd9

    nerd9 OT Supporter

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    yes, i do mean sexually.

    "get on your knees and suck my cock?" i feel like that's a huge step for me to take :noes: but i'll definitely try it
     
  7. kiri

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    i like it during sex too :wiggle:

    some tips:
    - don't do it every time, or it will lose its appeal
    - sometimes TELL her what to do and sometimes just DO it (like grab her and flip her over, or pus her head towards your cock)
    - try a little mild restraint, like holding her arms over her head while you're fucking her

    some of the things my bf does that i like:
    - he'll grab my face/head/neck and hold it down while fucking me
    - grabbing me and tossing me into new positions :mamoru:
    - climbing on top of me and putting his dick in my mouth
    - saying things like "get on me" and "cum for me baby" :naughty:
    - the other day we were fucking and i was so close and was like "make me cum!" and he stopped for a sec and was like "beg for it" and i was like :eek3::naughty:

    well i'm getting carried away but i hope that was at least somewhat helpful :o
     
  8. HouseLing

    HouseLing When masturbations lost its fun you'r fucking lazy

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    you might want to look around in FS for a bit, but the basics are to sit down and communicate. find out what she is interested in, and what you are interested in. what you have common interests in and explore and expand them.

    obviously theres alot more too it, enojoy :bigthumb:
     
  9. antihero

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    thats a huge step for you? Oh man, you are in for some good times brother :bigthumb:


    Tell her what to wear, tell her how to do her makeup. Tell her to strip you and her, tell her to put on a show for you, tell her to beg for what you want to give her, tell her beg for what she wants, Don't say anything at all, just pull down your zipper motion her to her knees with a nod and an even look. Have fun with it. If shes got the confidence to tell you this is what she wants, she will have the confidence to tell you you might be taking it a bit too far, so no worries.
     
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    HouseLing When masturbations lost its fun you'r fucking lazy

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    its always a good idea to set boundrys beforehand. that way you know when you are getting close to limits.
     
  11. Pringles

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    I'd do what people are mentioning in this thread, but be gentle in the start. IE don't start grabbing her neck or what not. Maybe next time just start off with gentle commands that aren't so threatening. If shes appealed by it keep going. Otherwise you might say something that kills the mood. Thats the answer to your question.

    But on the other hand she may want some more explaining. Like make it more erotic and romantic, but using descriptive words of what she is doing or your doing and what will happen. Forces the mind to focus and to let the imagination run of what will or could happen next. Doing this while heavy breathing will help set the mood too. You'll see what I mean if you do it.
     
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    I remember talking to a girl once who was a little wacked out. She got off on a guy talking down to her and ordering her around. I'd tell her to shut up the hell up and "let me finish talking" and she'd get hot; haha, it was bizarre.
     

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