Tell me why I shouldn't have done this.

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  1. forgotmyname

    forgotmyname Active Member

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    Asked a friend to introduce me to another girl. I could've done this, but the thing is we both work in the same place. I know relationships on the job are a No-no, but I got curious.

    Anyways, the girl said to my friend that she doesn't want any bfs, but she would like to know me.

    Should I abort this one?
     
  2. jared_IRL

    jared_IRL OT Supporter

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    I can tell you why you shouldn't have made this post....




    No, seriously... It doesn't make any sense....


    Are you trying to say you work with a girl, but had to get a co-worker to approach her?

    Are you in middle school?

    I mean it's just a girl. They really don't have cooties... You can go talk to her yourself.


    I don't think you'll have the chance to abort, because she's already laughing at you behind your back for not being able to approach her yourself.
     
  3. forgotmyname

    forgotmyname Active Member

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    Jezzz, here we go again.
    I am not the first one who has gone through this here. Oh and I already explained the reason why I couldn't approach her that directly.
     
  4. jared_IRL

    jared_IRL OT Supporter

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    when did you explain why you couldn't? Not in your first post.

    you're the first one that has gone through what?
     
  5. forgotmyname

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    Through the "introduction by a third friend" thingy. So its not like I was the first one who came up with this.

    And the reason why I couldn't approach her was because we both work in the same place. And everybody knows how relationships at work are not such a good idea.

    I got curious and decided to ask my friend to introduce us.

    But I got that answer from her.

    Thats why I ask If I should abort this one.
     
  6. jared_IRL

    jared_IRL OT Supporter

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    Take a step back for a second...

    If you work with someone, you are automatically in a social environment with that person. You have a free pass to approach and talk to that person, and almost a social requirement to introduce yourself.

    If you cannot do this on your own, or skip those social steps and just go right to having a 3rd party approach her about a relationship, you're doing it all wrong.

    all office relationships, and 99% of relationships in real life start off with socializing and a bit of 'getting to know each other' before the relationship starts.

    You don't just approach someone and say 'hey - you want a bf?'

    Thats never gonna work. and it's pretty silly anywhere out of middle school.


    My advice - go say hi. Introduce yourself. talk about work, life, etc. Build on some common interests and such. Then, if there's a mutual attraction, the relationship will take care of itself.
     
  7. forgotmyname

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    I've spoken to some other girls here. I just don't know why I did that. As I said, maybe I got curious about that method.

    I already spoke to her, but she seemed normal. Then last Friday I got a bit of attention from her, and I thought I had a chance there.

    Basically I was sitting at my desk and I caught her staring at me for a few seconds. Shortly after I was helping a friend of hers moving some boxes, and she seemed surprised. After they left, I caught her looking the back of my car, where i was sitting.

    Anyways, my friend just told me, to punch out at the same time with her.

    *cues Casino Royal theme song* :mamoru:
     
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    huntz0r New Member

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    Stop testing the waters and talk to her, get her number, and ask her on a date. There's nothing wrong with getting an introduction, it gives you a little social credit... but then you have to pick up the ball and run with it. Dancing around the issue and poking it with a stick is what gets nice guys friendzoned.

    [insert link to Yail Bloor's "Asking a woman out on a date is 100% normal" thread]
     
  9. forgotmyname

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    For shame though because I already failed.
     
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    huntz0r New Member

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    Probably, cause you've been doing too much float like a butterfly and not enough sting like a bee.

    Learn from it and moveon.org
     
  11. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    but having your friend do it makes it a better idea? how? it's the same girl/same risk.
     
  12. Kirbys Autumn

    Kirbys Autumn Mrs. Kirby McSpic

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    I think it depends on where you work. My boyfriend and I met up on the job. We both worked together and became friends. We've been going out for almost 10 months now. Since then we've both left the place where we used to work together and no longer work together. :)
     
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    :rofl::rofl::rofl:
     
  14. jones21

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    fuck this shit
     
  15. Abomb

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    quit being a pussy and do your own approaches :)
     

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