Taking it off the pedestal

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  1. Alexqzilla

    Alexqzilla New Member

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    How to do it?
     
  2. Alexqzilla

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    wat?
    Try respecting yourself?
     
  4. Alexqzilla

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    That's a whole different thread in a whole different subforum, it's not as easy as you'd think it would be to make a thread asking for help. And just for the record, I'm not just trying to go for the first opportunity, I'm going for the right one. AHHHH
     
  5. Alexqzilla

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    I guess I just have no idea what to say or how to act, and being myself is hard when I've spent all this time psyching myself out. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else had similar experiences and if so, what they did to help move past it...
     
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    Similar experiences to what? Edit the first post and give us something to work with
     
  7. uwofrost

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    Im going to guess you met a girl and you have a hard time around her.

    Additionally im going to guess you dont get much ass...
     
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    I think being a bit more vague would help...
     
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    no gym for home?
     
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    In for more details from OP. Not much to go on here....
     
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    uwofrost New Denver Crew

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    OP is full of FAIL!
     
  12. knucks

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    My assumption is that he's crushing over a girl?
     
  13. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    :rofl:

    just do it.
     
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  15. Yail Bloor

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    the pussy?

    start by actually being able to say it
     
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    Impossible unless you are not human or you have immense willpower capable of replacing your own feelings.

    I've done it once though. Seriously.
     
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    The pussy is on a pedestal because you are some naive virgin who isn't getting some. Just go out and get laid with a fat chick or an ugly chick that you won't really care about and you will get over it.

    Or you can just simply stop being a pussy yourself and quit being desperate. Girls are very perceptive and can tell how desperate you are and probably won't take you seriously because of that. I can tell you are desperate and I've only read about 10 words from you.
     
  18. Alexqzilla

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    Wish I could argue, you're all just telling me the truth. I guess it's just built up further than I can deal with. I'm not going to go out and score with someone I could care less about who I'm not even attracted to, because that's just not me. This is ridiculous. It effects my self esteem, and I feel like I can't progress any further in life. Every day all I can think about is how worthless I am, and what a waste of potential I am. You've all been wonderful, even if you're total jerks who have never been in my shoes and have noting constructive to say. I'm giving up, etc, etc, flame away, sorry to have wasted your time.
     
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    glug glug glug
     
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    I am sorry that you feel you should judge your worth as a person based on whether or not you have had sex, which is what it sounds like you are doing. Unfortunately, this is not something anyone can tell you. You need to figure it out for yourself.

    As long as you are focused on it so intensely, it will not get any better. You have self-esteem issues in other areas? I'm guessing yes. You should probably focus on changing those first. I think the rest will come when you are less focused on it. (i.e., "a watched pot never boils")
     
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    respect yourself and be confident. i don't think you can take the pussy off the pedestal until you view yourself as the prize instead of jumping all over any decent girl that's willing to go on a date with you.
     
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    Step One:

    Learn to feel good about yourself

    Until you accomplish this, don't even CONSIDER trying to meet or date women.
     
  23. fishjie

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    pro tip:

    buy a hooker

    it worked for me

    once you realize you can get laid whenever you want to, it changes your world view completely. good luck.
     
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  25. Alexqzilla

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    You're right, I do, I just need to find my way out of this hole because it's doing nothing for me. I hate that I feel desperate and lonely all the time, and it really stops me from progressing, yet the only way TO progress is to stop feeling desperate and lonely, which can't happen until I feel better about who I am, which I can't do because I feel desperate and lonely. This introduces frustration, which makes me feel like giving up, and there's no sign of land. :nickos:
     

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