Taking a friendship to the next level

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  1. dipset420

    dipset420 New Member

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    I currently live with 2 girls. Over the past year or so I've grown really close to the one to the point I really want to make a move to the next level. I'm pretty sure she would be up for it but I'm afraid to make a move and get rejected. I know I should stop being such a pussy and just go for it but I don't want to make it awkward if she doesn't feel the same way.

    Any advice?
     
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    Why do you think she would be up for it?
     
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    yea has she actually hinted to being interested or shown it?
     
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    Everynight when i come home from work me and her hang out toghether. We always sit right next each on the couch. She'll lay across from me time to time. A couple of times she started to rub my leg with her foot. I figured that was a go ahead but I was too scared to go for it.

    She makes comments about other girls that I'm with that make it seem as though she is jealous. She's always complaining how she doesn't get any ass which I can't understand because she is very attractive but kinda shy.

    We tell each other everything which is why sometimes I just think she thinks of me as a very good friend.
     
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    so talk to her about how you feel
     
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    just tease her about it and make it seem like your interested with out actually sayin. or just look at her be like i have a HUGE crush on u and smile and then if she goes thats weird be like yea i know i was just playin JEEEZZ!!
     
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    I wish it was that easy.


    I know it will be easier if I'm drunk. I don't know if next time we come home and we're hammered if I should say something or just go in for a kiss.
     
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    go in for the kis for sure, and blame the alcohol
     
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    The other problem is what happens after that. We do live toghether so where does it go for there. She's had a friend with benefits that went wrong so I'm not sure if she would want to go that route again.
     
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    wrong how? and do you really wanna do it when you're drunk?
     
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    well if she turns it down just tell her you were horny, if it works, you basiclly have a live in GF
     
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    Basicly the friend likes her a lot more than she likes him so now he doesn't want to be just friends again and its pissing her off.


    I would prefer to do it sober so I would actually remember it. Makes it more special I guess.
     
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    i see

    yeah, sober's probably better.

    if you guys are really friends, i wouldn't worry about the aftermath. i know it's hard but just be honest.
     
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    I wouldn't mind the live in GF part but if its just a FTF situation it would get weird when we have other people over. I'm still kinda seeing someone but I would cut her off in a second if I was with the girl I'm living with.
     
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    Next time, grab her damn foot and give it a massage! Push her off the couch, hit her with a pillow, do something. Get her turned on and maybe she'll jump on you.

    DO NOT talk to her about how you feel.
     
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    She's really an easygoing person who would be cool with whatever but for some reason I can't just go for it.
     
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    I've thought about just being dumb and jumping on her and squeezing in for a cuddle but I know I'd pop one as soon as we start to spoon.

    Why do you say don't talk about it?
     
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    If you're interested in her, show it. Actions speak louder than words.
     
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    My friend said she would come out with us one night to talk to her. She was gonna just be like why don't you john hookup. I would think that she wouldn't really tell her the truth cause she's knows this girl is my friend and it would get back to me. Unless she wanted it to then I would be golden
     
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    Worst idea EVER, sorry.

    If you want to take it to the next level, ask her on a DATE. Seriously. Use the word "date" and have plans for a second-date type event like a walk on the beach, lunch on top of a mountain, or something else where the two of you can be alone.

    Chances are she sees you as more of a GF if she talks to you about her sex life, so I wouldn't try it personally. However, if you don't try you will never know, and until you know you are wasting your life.
     
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    We went to go see Borat toghether. I was supposed to go see it with this other girl but I wanted to go with her instead. I sent a txt joking saying "jane wanted to go to the movie but I told her I have a hot date with a sexy little italian so she started to cry and I hung up on her" She sent back "lol you're an asshole" then I said I was just joking.
    At the bar the night before going out she brought up the sexy little italian comment and gave me a little look which let me know she liked it.
     
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    no worries.

    i didn't think about it like that.
     
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    The general concensus seems to be not telling her but going for it. I mean I really got nothing to lose.

    I just got a txt from her saying "What are you doing tonight? 75 drafts at the bar" I sent back "I'm down"

    Maybe we can get smashed and I can go for it tonight.
     
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    well dont get to smashed she may want you and then you might be took drunk to perform
     
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    I'm leaving work now so wish me luck. I'll let ya'll know how it goes tommorow.
     

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