support her or leave her?

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  1. evolution

    evolution New Member

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    Of all the girls in the past 6 weeks, I end up choosing the one with the most baggage. :hs: I like her and she likes me, but we're still starting off. It all went well until last night when she said her ex-bf got back and wants to see her.

    :ugh: Anywas, apparently he's an asshole who feels others only respect her because of his own status. Has a lot of points associated with abusers. I don't care to do anything against the guy at the current moment, i'm just an overly calm guy lately. I've only been seeing this girl for a short time.

    So last night she cried a lot and she seems to be having trouble with this situation. They broke up few weeks ago, went out two years..etc. She says she still likes him a bit because of their history but really wants to be with me and likes me a lot. :ugh2: She's a beautiful girl; a model that part-times at club bars, but it's evident her self esteem isn't up there.

    My problem is I know she needs a good friend to be there for her because her crowd consists of shady characters. I just want to help her because I don't want to see her get hurt even worse in the future. On the other hand I have tons of numbers earned in the past six weeks from girls I picked up....also no need for drama.
     
  2. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    you are early on in the relationship, with this many problems? id move on.
     
  3. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Tell her you don't want to date her because of the ex drama but you can still be her friend if you wanna help her.
     
  4. z31maniac

    z31maniac *insert witty remark*

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    I just went through something similar.

    MOVE ON!!!! I know it's hard cause she is hot and you she potential and probably want to help her get past this guy. But if you want to help her, be her friend and nothing more, don't let the involvement go any farther than it already has.
     
  5. evolution

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    Thanks! Seeing her in a bit, see how it goes. Hopefully get it settled enough to enjoy the new year. :hs:
     
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    PocoDiablo New Member

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    If you have to be her therapist ... move on. She'll end up dumping you for being too nice. In my opinion.

    Let us know what happened.
     
  7. All you are is her rebound guy and she still loves her ex, anygirl who cries about her ex and then tells you she only likes him a little is lying.
     
  8. Hootahz314

    Hootahz314 I have daddy issues

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    You have to think about you here. If it's this early in the relationship and she's putting you through this imagine how the entire relationship will go. Girls like this are the reason guys post in the main forum about how stupid/slutty/bitchy women are. Let her settle her own baggage before she ends up making it yours.
     
  9. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    :werd: Rule #1: "Look out for #1."
     
  10. evolution

    evolution New Member

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    Solved.
     
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  11. boostedscooby

    boostedscooby no blue icon no care

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    move on .I just broke up with my g/f we only dated for 3 months .
     
  12. Solus Emsu

    Solus Emsu ****** U N R A T E D ! ****** -----THAT'S HOW I RO

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    I think you answered your own question here.
    You know where you will end up, you know your options...
    YOU KNOW WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO!!!
     
  13. Camron James

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    That is nothing less than the truth.
     
  14. z31maniac

    z31maniac *insert witty remark*

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    resolution?
     
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    do neither. call the shots, do things your way, and see what she does and hwo she reacts. worst that can happen is she leaves but you wont have lost anything
     
  16. evolution

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    Basically like that. She deals with her problems by herself and I go have my fun.
     

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