I met this girl a couple years ago. She's extremely intelligent, the funniest girl I've ever met, and a really talented and passionate person. We became friends almost the second we met each other and quickly became really good friends (she is one of my girfriend's best friends and is sorta like a younger sibling or a daughter to us). The problem is that, when we became such good friends so fast, she almost immediately began using us to combat her depression. Both my gf and I are really passionate people and we give whatever we have to the things that matter to us. She would have awful, horrible panic attacks. She would cry and roll up in a ball and convulse and scream. On several occasions my girl friend took her to the hospital for emergency care. My girlfriend would go to therapy sessions with her and her family. Both gf and I would stay up late talking to her and trying to calm her down and give her advice. But, over time, we realized that nothing was working and she wasn't putting in the effort that she needed to put in to make herself better. We went at it for months, giving her advice, being with her when she needed us, trying to talk her down when she was suicidal. We became her therapists. But, she still wanted us as friends too. She became very demanding. When we didn't bend over backwards when she was feeling bad she got really pissed at us and would essentially take out her depression on us, which upset us because we were the only two of her friends that were making an effort for her. Both of us are gone now. My gf and I are in college (different colleges close to each other) a thousand miles from her. We didn't know how she would react to losing both of us. But, she handles things differently. Now, she internalizes everything. She is on medication that makes her focus because of her ADD and also her Bipolarity meds. So, she basically does all her school work and all her theater and her college apps and shuns everything else. She will frequently text and shoot the shit and say that she is depressed and empty, but isn't proactive about getting help or even talking about it/venting. Is this a step in the right direction? It's good for her to have to spread her wings without us isn't it? We still love her immensely even though sometimes she takes us for granted. Has anybody been in a similar situation? What did you do?