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  1. sportsfreaky211

    sportsfreaky211 New Member

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    Long story short wife and i don't have sex due to personal issues with her. I recently found out she is still masturbating with a vibrator we bought years ago. Typical straight, hard multi-speed vibrator.

    Can any of you ladies suggest items that she might like that would be something that i can get her to change it up if she wants? can't be anything too crazy but post up ideas and i'll decide if she might dig it or not.

    Thanks.
     
  2. bigfodee

    bigfodee Active Member

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    It's a bit too short. You don't have sex with her because you are upset with her? because of something about her? you can't fit? what man!?



    Need you to shed a little more light on what the problem is :)
     
  3. ACLdestroyer

    ACLdestroyer OT Supporter

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    Long story short. Your marriage is a sham and your wife is a cunt.
     
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    solarsrt4 New Member

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    http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=4476478

    ^ The longer short story..
     
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    Ahhh I remember this one. How can you honestly be ok with her masterbating when she won't even have sex with you. It sounds like the typical women thing to do. Have great sex for a while then just drop it because your not into it anymore and now the man is stuck with a wife he can't fuck. Before you go and try to help her get off why doesn't she get some god damn help so she can help you get off instead.
     
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    suhrim21 New Member

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    the thing I dont understand is if your not allowed to masterbate why is she.
     
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    sportsfreaky211 New Member

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    well suhrim apparently she said I can but didn't want me watching porn to do it. This was an item she neglected to tell me almost 2 years ago.
     
  8. sportsfreaky211

    sportsfreaky211 New Member

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    changed my mind if she's using toys to get off then maybe i should but something to get myself off. Besides the fleshlight are there any adult toys for men to help get off?? I'm not into self anal play but anything else would due.
     
  9. suhrim21

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    thanks for clearing that up. I was just confused about it once I read the long post. I personally think you shouldnt be worried about a fast solution to help you get off, but rather how to fix the problems you and the misses are going through so you can have a normal sex life. After reading and thinking about it I think there is some other problem other than her not wanting sex cause she thinks she was molested. this is only my thoughts and I may be completely wrong, but to me if she was that hurt about it she would have no sex drive what so ever including taking care of her self. Since she is I get that there is more to the story. IDK I would be more worried about fixing the big problem than trying to find something that will help you get off. Forgive me if I have oversteped my bounds but that is what I get out of it.
     
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    you should get her divorce paper vibrator to masturbate with IMO
     
  11. ...stimpy

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    Take away the one she has. Seriously.


    I think Dr. what's-his-fuck would call you an "enabler". You talk about not wanting to be "selfish" by leaving her ... 2 yrs? ... just how long before anything changes?

    There has to be more to this story. Did you gain a lot of weight? Is there another reason she doesn't want you? Is there a reason your self esteem would be so low that you would simply accept 2-3 years of therapy with NO IMPROVEMENT?

    I'm really sorry, I'm not trying to attack you, but I think even you realize just how unbelievable your story sounds to most people. Now to find ways, or toys to just make the fucked up situation last even longer ...
    NEVER under estimate the power of denial.

    Hey, you're only 2 posts away from 100! Reply to me twice - call me an asshole ..... twice - I don't care! :wavey:
     
  12. sportsfreaky211

    sportsfreaky211 New Member

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    not fat, didn't hit her. Trying to be a MAN and not some pathethic chump who walks at the first sign of an issue.

    I know she has a psychological issue and if you know anything about child abuse you would know it really fucks someone up.

    I have set a time frame up of events and plan on sticking to it. I want things to change but i can't make her change it has to come from her. She has isolation issues and dissociation from what i can tell. I've talked to the dr and i know what's going on with her.

    I'll either be living happily married or divorced before I'm too old to make it matter.
     
  13. Chris_Hearn

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    sure shes not fuckin someone else?
     
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    have you asked her what it would take for things to change? does she want to change? make sure that she knows that you can't do this by yourself and that you're trying to save the marriage. ask her what she wants (understand that she may want women and not men, and all of this is an elaborate cover-up if she's ashamed of those feelings).

    take her out on a date (and make sure she knows it's a date) and dress nice. do all the romance-things that you did at the early part of the relationship.

    is she on birth control? some brands will tank the libido like no other. ask her to try switching brands.

    once she's comfortable with you as a person again, you can take steps to get things back. even if it's little steps, like going with her to buy a new toy (don't just get her one, go with her and let her pick it out).

    if she at least makes a good attempt, you're good to go. if not, follow the advice about divorce proceedings in the other thread (have your own savings account, document paperwork, etc).

    Good luck.
     

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