Stick it out?

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  1. Handsom3

    Handsom3 Our wrongs remain unrectified and our souls won't

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    Background: Was introduced to this girl on her birthday at the start of the year, she gave me her number, but I never did anything with it. Didn’t feel ready to jump back into a relationship after still not really being over my ex. She is part of our mutual group of friends so I invited her out for Cinco de Mayo, but when she showed up I guess she wasn’t happy that I was dating someone and was a bit of a bitch towards me.

    Currently she has been coming out with us every Tuesday night to the bar and hanging with us. She mentioned that she was single and I did too. Ever since then she has been asking if she can come out with me whenever I go out. So we’ve hung out about 5-6 times in the group setting by now, but towards the end of the night the two of us work our way away from the group. Last Tuesday night she talked to both my guy friend and a good girlfriend, she told them both that she really likes me. She wound up spending the night that night and sleeping in the bed with me, nothing physical happened.

    Later that week we went out on our first “date” and we had a blast. I took her home and she gave me a hug as she got out of the car. Later that night she texted me back saying she had a great time and wanted to go out again. So the two of went out Monday night for drinks and talked about all sorts of stuff and had a pretty good time. On the ride home she mentioned she had an issue with me, which is really kind of odd. She mentioned that when I get back from vacation, I’ll be gone for 9 days on Friday, and when I get back I won’t talk to her. I told her to get over herself and that I would because I have so much fun with her. So I told her not to make any plans on the night I get back because I’m taking her out. Then she said if I do that she’ll start to trust me, but then she said I’ll just turn around an hurt her like all the other guys.

    I really like this girl, but I don’t know if I should just walk away now or stick it out with her. I know her last relationship didn’t turn out well, but she’ll say thing about me that set me above the typical guy.

    Cliffs:
    Meet girl through mutual friends, do nothing at the time
    Invite her out for Cinco de Mayo, she get an attitude when she finds out I’m not single
    She starts hanging out with mutual friends and I
    Go out on two dates, end of second date find abandonment issues and trust issues
    Should I stay or should I go?
     
  2. Dreams2Reality

    Dreams2Reality saywhat

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    Hellllllllllooooo insecurity.
     
  3. XaPU!M

    XaPU!M Active Member

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    She's already pulling this shit after 2 dates. Imagine what will happen after dating for a month, then 6 months, then a year.

    I say you stick it out and keep us all updated, solely so we can all :rofl: at the future stories.
     
  4. Handsom3

    Handsom3 Our wrongs remain unrectified and our souls won't

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    Yeah, I caught that upfront right away. Always acting "tough", but from talking to her friends she has always been like that.
     
  5. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Personally I don't have a problem with insecurity and trust issues. I say stick it out. Expect it to be chaotic though. Hopefully she's actually ready for a guy to treat her right because otherwise she'll get bored and leave/cheat if you don't fuck her over. Still I'd give her the benefit of the doubt until she actually does something wrong.
     
  6. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Stage 5 clinger.

    Good luck.
     
  7. saosko

    saosko OT Supporter

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    If you REALLY REALLY have feelings for her, stick it out. Sounds like she could flip the switch and turn into a pshyco though.
     
  8. Abomb

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    why didnt you fuck her when she slept in your bed?

    why didnt you kiss her when you were done with your date?

    have you fucked her yet?

    what the fuck is going on here?

    :run:
     
  9. Handsom3

    Handsom3 Our wrongs remain unrectified and our souls won't

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    We go rear-ended at 5am coming back from food, wasn't exactly mood setting.

    Got hugged first. :wtc:

    See above.
     
  10. Handsom3

    Handsom3 Our wrongs remain unrectified and our souls won't

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    We are going out tonight, so I'll see how things go then.

    :noes:
     
  11. Abomb

    Abomb New Member

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    just abort shes a clinger, annoying as fuck, and you have not been able to successfully penetrate her child canal with your beef tenderizer.
     
  12. Dreams2Reality

    Dreams2Reality saywhat

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    I was wondering these same things.
     
  13. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    :rofl: don't agree on the sex part but jeez she is soo insecure. I am some times insecure too, but don't let it out like this ever. As some other poster said just stay if you seriously like her.
     
  14. FlashhslaF

    FlashhslaF New Member

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    maybe she really likes you and is scared...give her the benefit of the doubt that she is scared to get into a relationship. You are right, she didn't have to say it out loud to you.

    just be upfront with her about it and tell her what kind of a person you are and that you are not her other ex-bfs. That you really like her, but you don't like the fact that she compares and contracts you with how others have treated her. Tell her to give you the benefit of the doubt that not every guy is the same.

    I think or I hope that will kind of force her to take a step back from her insecurities. Its worth a shot before you decide to end it.
     
  15. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    i dont have an issue w. insecurity if it does not go over board. stick it out if you like her that much. however, if it gets to the point that her BS does not stop and ventures into annoying be ready to deal w. it.
     
  16. ldaggerl

    ldaggerl New Member

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    I'd take it as she doesn't have a problem expressing her feelings to you. So you shouldn't to deal with that common "whats wrong.....nothing.....you sure....yes" kind of crap.
     
  17. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    This is the most important question that needs to be answered first; and do not think of her at all when you think about it:

    Are you ready to be in a serious relationship right now? Or are you only interested in casual relationships?
     
  18. Specialist23

    Specialist23 OT Supporter

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    obviously she's a bit insecure but at the same time she could also be eluding to the fact that you didn't call her after she gave you her number the first time which if i believe you explain why, then it could be better.

    then again she could also be all wacko about it being over an x but that's what i would do and see what her reaction is.

    also if you really do like her, make sure you make an effort to contact her when you're on vaca.
     
  19. XxvODvxX

    XxvODvxX New Member

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    I'm with IWYWB but insecurity shouldn't be an issue unless she lets it become a bigger part. Most girls don't forget bad experiences and hold onto them, hence her insecurities. (This is my experience)... But the girls i have dated like that either loosen up and aren't that way overal or become bat $hit crazy. Act accordingly and don't give her a reason to not be secure around you.
     
  20. jeffswain

    jeffswain OT Supporter

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    stick it out to see if the insecureness becomes too much of a red flag
     

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