Stay together or break up?

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  1. Frinkenstein

    Frinkenstein New Member

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    Hi guys,
    I'm new here, but am looking for some help...

    I've been dating my gf for about 3.5 years. I'm 26, she's 23.

    She's crazy about me and is counting down the days until we get engaged/married. However, I'm not so sure... Quite frankly, I have no idea what to do.

    I feel like I love her a lot, but I don't know if I can marry her. I guess I'm not sure if I love her enough. How do you know if you love someone enough to marry them? I know that if we broke up, I would certainly miss her a ton, but obviously that doesn't mean we should get married.

    Great things about her:
    -Sex with her is usually amazing. Her $*&X is very tight. Her boobs are large.
    -She's very smart and comes from a different background than I do, so we often have interesting conversations
    -She's still in school for 2 more years, but has the potential to make decent money when she graduates
    -She has a cute/pretty face and blonde hair
    -Even though we don't have much in common she makes an effort to try things I like
    -I like that she's very outgoing / is good friends with my friends


    Not so great things about her:
    -Her boobs are somewhat saggy
    -She's not fat, but certainly not skinny... Has some cellulite issues on her butt. Her mom/grandma/aunt/brother are all definitely fat and so it seems she's genetically predisposed to becoming fat. Thus, there is a definite risk that I won't find her attractive in the future.
    -Her family is prone to addiction (gambling, drinking, eating disorder)
    -We don't really have much in common
    -I get the feeling that my family like her enough, but may not think we should be together in the long term. They have never told me this explicitly though.

    For various reasons, I have only a few days (max) to make a decision dump/stay with.
     
  2. razi

    razi New Member

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    aside from physical description, my ex-fiance and I had a similar relationship.

    I regret losing her, and probably always will.

    It's a sade fate that you'll never realize what you have until it's gone... I am a completely different person than I was a year and a half ago, because of this. It's understandable to be nervous and to worry. However, if she's as good as you say she is, don't let this opportunity slip through your fingers. The five things you mentioned that are not so great are severely, severely trivial matters.

    Getting over doubt is a severely, severely difficult thing (partly because it is an extention of your own self-doubt). Good luck, man.
     
  3. JustaMeThang

    JustaMeThang New Member

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    From the Pros and Cons list that you put together, including her physical aspects, money making potential, tight pussy, large saggy tits, etc, I cant believe you are describing someone you have been with for 3.5 years in these terms. If this is the best you can do when it comes to reasons why you would and wouldnt want to spend the rest of your life with her, then do you and her a favor and break up so you can each find someone who you can love and receive love back from in return.
     
  4. Daddy O

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    Amen - Very well said.:bigthumb:
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    do NOT get married. that's all I'm going to say because that's the main point.
     
  6. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    you sound really deep, man.
     
  7. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

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    Oh come on, you already know the answer to your question. you don't want to marry this girl. You're analyzing what she can do for you, and not thinking about just her being with you. That alone shows you aren't willing/ready.

    Break up with her so she can find someone who DOES want to get married.
     
  8. StopDrop&LOL

    StopDrop&LOL "Where The Elite Become Champions"

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    Sometimes you have to let go to actually realize how much you love someone.
     
  9. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    sounds like lust to me... find some you LOVE
     
  10. ever absurd

    ever absurd New Member

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    Despite being 3 years older than her, you sound much less mature considering how much you care about physical characteristics in a supposedly loving relationship. You have second thoughts about marriage because her boobs are slightly saggy and she has cellulite? You definitely should not be getting married.
     
  11. quamen

    quamen New Member

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    if u love someone, most of these physical things would be near the very end of the list or not on the list at all. I really dont think you love her, i wouldnt even consider having the relationship if i were u.
     
  12. Got_Milf?

    Got_Milf? Custom User Title:

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    mother fucking dot, i feel so bad for her
     
  13. ArthurPewty

    ArthurPewty New Member

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    This is a decision you need to discuss seriously with your girlfriend, but these points can't be stressed enough.
     
  14. Cerridwen

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    . Listen to these two ;)
     
  15. pigeon

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    ^^

    motherfucking dot.
     
  16. OoOlAlA

    OoOlAlA New Member

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    If your asking the internet or having doubts about her leave her. All of your reasons were about her looks anyway.
     
  17. ever absurd

    ever absurd New Member

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    :rofl:
     
  18. PocoDiablo

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    How is your chemistry as friends and as lovers? Do you get along well, or do you feel disconnected.

    Generally speaking, I tend to say "If it feels like you are living with your sister or a roommate, then it's probably not going to last."
     
  19. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    07 with his first post...you sound like an idiot

    buy an av too
     
  20. huntz0r

    huntz0r New Member

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    This is actually one of the best rules of thumb: if you have to ask about it on the internet, something is wrong. I can verify this personally.

    Generally, it sounds like you just don't know her very well. Unlike some of these people appear to be saying, I don't think there is anything inherently wrong with thinking about physical attractiveness in a potential wife. In fact it's rather important, though obviously you have to be realistic in your expectations. But there isn't much in your original post about her character or attitude.
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    someone please explain to me why it's necessary to PAY actual money for an avatar.
     
  22. StopDrop&LOL

    StopDrop&LOL "Where The Elite Become Champions"

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    Visit the OT forum and ask them
     
  23. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    No thanks. I like keeping my money. My SO and I were just discussing the other day how funny it is that vets freak out on anyone who doesn't have an avatar. He's been on here for years and they still treat him like a newb because of it
     
  24. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Break up with her so she can find a man worth being with.
     
  25. ever absurd

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    Have you broken up with her yet??
    Because that needs to happen.
     

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