standard response to *lets just be friends*

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  1. hefeweizen

    hefeweizen New Member

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    Basically, Ive hooked up with this girl a few times, then things went south. (backstory - http://forums.offtopic.com/showthread.php?t=3928945 )

    msg @ facebook
    anyway to come out on top?

    I am thinking something along the lines of....

    :dunno:
     
  2. vodkacollins

    vodkacollins New Member

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    no response needed. you already pushed it too far
     
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    saying you don't care anymore is the biggest way of saying "i still do care"

    be honest and say yeah I like you but if we're better off as friends that's great, too -- thanks for being honest

    edit: looking at your last thread, fuck it man -- it hurts but move on
     
  4. MattThom01

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    There's no need for a response. 99% of the time, there's really nothing to say after it. You're interested in her, you've let her know, she in turn let you know that she is NOT interested in you that way. Any interaction afterward is going to be awkward.

    Why would you continue to pursue someone who is clearly not interested (at least while you still want her)?
     
  5. hefeweizen

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    Yeah, I was kind of figuring that. Also she let me borrow 2 seasons of the office, and it was lost/stolen recently. Thats got to be ~50 bucks to replace, and I dont want to pay her.



    I cant remember the last time one of my friends actively ignored me for a month.

    By friends, she means acquaintances, right?

    Because friends, uh, socialize together?

    Regardless I dont want to be her friend.
     
  6. hefeweizen

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    As I posted early, I was confused and that upset for me a while, but its been a while and I dont care anymore. It is clear she is not interested and I have no interest in pursuing. That isnt to say that I wouldnt my dick in her if I got a chance. :dunno:
     
  7. Yail Bloor

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    nothing you can say will help you as much as cutting off all contact with her

    anything you say will only lower her interest further, if thats even possible

    but if you ignore her completely and move on, her interest may rise over time
     
  8. hefeweizen

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    basically I was just wondering if there was anyway to come across that leaves me feeling smug. maybe make a joke about her vagina or something?
     
  9. vodkacollins

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    how old are you? these responses make you sound like you are a child

    and nothing you say is going to hurt her, its only going to make you look like more of an idiot. she doesnt care
     
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    "I have enough friends, have a nice day."
     
  11. MattThom01

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    A mature adult does not need to say or do anything to make himself feel smug when he does not get the desired result in a situation like this. He simply accepts it and moves on with his life.

    In short, there's probably something you could say that would fit the bill, but it would reflect worse on you than on her. The few seconds of pleasure it would give you would not be worth looking/feeling like a jerk later.

    You can be better than that.
     
  12. hefeweizen

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    I am 21.

    I am 21, and this is the first 'lets just be friends' Ive gotten so :dunno:

    Yeah ok, that makes sense.

    Any tips on conversation if I see her around school, or have a class with or something. Would it be a dumb idea to try and game her down, or should I keep the conversation about as personal as it is when checking out from a grocery store?

    "Hi, how are you?"

    "Im doin good, how are you?"

    "Im doin fine"

    etc etc?
     
  13. hefeweizen

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    this one is pretty :bowdown:, does that make anyone reconsider their suggestion of silence?
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :rofl:

    IMO either say absolutely nothing back or a simple statement such as "No worries, see you around."
     
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    Whats wrong with the one you quoted. If you were the girl in my situation how would you react to that zinger? :dunno:
     
  16. vodkacollins

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    you are thinking too hard about this.

    if you see her around school, say hi or wave or smile if it makes sense. dont go out of your way to say hi to her. i doubt much small talk will ever be needed. if it is, then just treat her like you would treat any other friend or casual aquaintence that you have met in school so far.

    i think you basically should just forget about her completely. dont seek her out, dont try to be near her in class, pretend like you dont know her. it will save you both a lot of trouble
     
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    i would think you were being childish. if thats what you want her to think about you, go for it. but dont expect her to regret her decision to not want to date you, comments like this will just solidify it
     
  18. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Well I would never write what she wrote to you...but besides that if I got that response I'm sure I'd be "what a dick!" But at the same time....who really gives a shit? I think that response, while harsh, at least doesn't make you look like a pussy :dunno: But if you did it I'd still suggest maybe "don't worry about me, I've got enough friends" and that's it. Never respond again.
     
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    sounds good see you soon?
    EDIT: this has happened to me as well
     
  20. hefeweizen

    hefeweizen New Member

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    :nono:
     
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    this just sounds like you're pussyhurt over the whole situation. i'd either not respond or just be like "thanks for being honest, see you around"
     
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    it was a joke...I wouldn't respond at all...
     
  23. Viper

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    Nope. I have heard that saying about a million times and I still think it's one of the most insecure things you can say to a girl.
     
  24. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    dawt
     
  25. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    :bowrofl: well there's your answer then, just don't say anything
     

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