Sent this to a friend (and only a friend): From: Jeff To: Julie Ann Subject: No plans for New Years yet... What about you? And their response... From: Julie Ann To: Jeff Subject: RE: No plans for New Years yet... Jeff, A college friend is having a NY's party, so yeah, I'm booked. Hope you find something fun! Julie A little background on her: She just moved here from Florida a few months ago. She's brand new to Minneapolis and going to school and making new friends. I've known her for awhile. In no way is this any kind of romantic friendship (we've discussed it and the attraction isn't really there). If this was any other situation, where it was someone I knew going to a party with different friends who I didn't know but that she had known for awhile, I wouldn't feel bad. But I'm certain she hardly knows these people, and it hurts a lot that she'd be like "I got plans, so you're on your own!" She knows that I had a really stressful Fall/Winter and she promised to get together more after finals. Not to mention when she first moved back here, I made a real effort to give her some company since she lives alone and was going through some shell shock. I'm disheartened that she isn't trying to do the same. I'll be damned if I try to invite myself along. That would be rude anyway, and she'd probably say yes but feel uneasy about it or think that I'm a loser (I'm sure she already does). I think I'm going to stop talking to her for awhile. All my friends are either married, distant, not at the level of friendship to invite me to an intimate News Years party, or etc etc... Three cheers to spending New Years alone!