sooo.. is it appropriate to give your ex's mom a present?

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  1. antihero

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    So with all this talk of the holidays.. I'm thinking. Is it appropriate to give an xmas gift to your recent ex's parent?

    I already bought it, and my ex was supposed to give me money for it, but I'm fine just giving it as a gift because her mom was always super awesome to me.

    :noes: don't really plan on getting anything for my ex obviously.
     
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    never been in that situation before but i guess if you were close to the mom and you already bought it, what's the harm? it's not like you're giving the ex a gift..
     
  3. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    I agree. I think you should give it.
     
  4. Alaya

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    In and of itself, it isn't a problem.

    But that depends on a couple things a) how long you've been broken up b) what terms you and your ex remain on after the breakup/what kind of breakup it was c) how your ex would feel about it [from what you've said, it sounds like she's cool with it]. I say that because, my sister's ex still gives my parents gifts, and it pisses the hell out of her, but I think mostly because they still remain in contact with him. All those things considered, just use your discretion :dunno: From what you've said, it doesn't sound like it's inappropriate/a problem.
     
  5. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    Was your friendship with this woman a construct predicated on the fact that you were in a relationship with her daught? Or was your friendship based on a mutual liking? I'm assuming it was the latter
     
  6. antihero

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    Sort of a difficult question as I have 0 experience outside the construct of dating her daughter.

    Are we likely to hang out in the future? probably not. its more of a "goodbye, and thanks for everything" kind of gift rather then a standard friends give friends presents kinda thing.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I'd just give her the gift. I think the choice should not involve the girl.
     
  8. Bob Brown

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    just give it.
     
  9. Falconer

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    give it unless it was pricey. then return it.
     
  10. antihero

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    cant really return it and I don't really have a use for it.... and it was a bit more then i would spend if I had to make the choice. but whats done is done.
     
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    yeah... if you can't return it and can't use it, then give it :)
     
  12. cherise

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    give it but dont be all mushy about it. big chance to score some nice points that might help you out later. If not at least she deserves it for something or other that happened along the way while dating her kid.
     
  13. antihero

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    Its a nice little cd player/ipod speaker etc etc. Its a higher end one though. got it on sale for $80.

    Her moms been wanting it. oh well, issue resolved. she called and she wants it because its what shes going to give her mom for xmas
     
  14. MattThom01

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    so she's going to pay you the full amount for the cost of the item, right?
     

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