some highschool rookie drama

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  1. brasheye

    brasheye Rotary Crew

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    sup vag,

    I'll keep it short and sweet.

    22yo male, Just out of a 18 month relationship and somewhat getting back into the game of things, I've done the few one night stands in between and now I'm ready to meet someone I can relate to again.

    Anyway, met a girl a couple of weeks ago through a mutual friend in a club, we hit it off really well and talked for what seemed like all night, saw her again at the same club the next week, and again hit it off really well, she's very smart, funny and damn hot (dare I say too hot?)

    Anyway, got a bit drunk that night, headed back to her friends place and shared a bed (nothing besides a bit of accidental spooning) said our goodbyes etc.

    Now this is where it gets a bit complicated, apparently according to the mutual friend she is into me, but is sort of not ready for anything further... now thats coming from the friend. I asked the friend for the girl in questions number and got it.

    Do I call this girl? Is it a bit stalkerish that I got her number without asking her etc. Do I just call her out of the blue and say "hi it's chris, got your number somehow wassup" :hs: Or on the odd chance see her out again and then ask for her number, when she probably knows the mutual friend has already given it to me. :o

    ahhh, can't get her out of my head, and yet I can't decide on what to do.

    Help lol.
     
  2. brasheye

    brasheye Rotary Crew

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    I should note also, Aussie clubs are a bit different to what you guys have in the US, particularly this one... more of a chilled sort of Bar.

    Either way, I'll take that on board.

    Thanks Babylon, just gonna have to grow a pair and tell her the truth :hs:
     
  3. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Just call her.

    And did your friend elaborate as to why she isn't "ready" to date? Because that's actually more important methinks.
     
  4. quzer

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    Heh, you're forgetting the fact that just like there's club girls, there's the exact same for guys. I wouldn't know what to call them though.

    I'm a believer that there's someone for everyone :p

    So although I agree with your opinion of club girls not being keepers, I don't think it is a generally accepted fact.
     
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    i agree. if she likes you, it wont matter that you got her number from someone else. and if she doesnt, it wont really either since she already has no interest, its not like shes going to lose it
     
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    When you call her just tell her the truth. Her friend gave you her number and suggested that you call her.

    But only call her when you have something planned. Then ask her to join you so you can hang out again. Don't say or make her think the word "date". To her it is just hanging out. Women feel a weird pressure when they start thinking about dating. That is why she is not ready for anything further, she doesn't want that weird pressure, and neither do you.

    Your goal should just be to hangout with her and have a good time. You shouldn't be trying to become her boyfriend or you will fail. Let her decide when the time is to make the relationship exclusive.
     
  7. KindlyCuddly

    KindlyCuddly Irina Lazareanu

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    you'll miss out on a lot of people if you discount everyone who likes to club. like, pretty much every young attractive girl.
     
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    Thanks for the advice.

    I'll do exactly that, see where she is off to this Friday night and then maybe magically appear there, I have a feeling I know where she will be anyway :dunno:

    As for why the friend said she is not ready for a relationship, Well I think she's been dudded (I think thats a bit of Aussie Slang there) by guys before and hence is a bit wary, maybe to the point where she is sort of on a "no guys" thing for a bit (i've done the same with girls before I suppose)

    Good advice VAG, I think I'll call her tonight :hs:
     
  9. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Why the fuck not? I suppose only a church fellowship meeting is an appropriate place to meet someone :ugh:

    Brash, mate, just call her and see how it goes. And get yourself back to aussie crew.
     
  10. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Why isn't a girl you meet in a bar/club a keeper? Come on. Give me one good reason?

    "oh noes she might be a slut because she goes out sometimes :noes:"
     
  11. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Yeah, because someone buying a coffee is so much more likely to want a serious relationship. I mean, imagine. The same people that go to a book store during the day can't possibly go out at night and must want differrent things :ugh:
     
  12. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    No, I just think you're an idiot.

    I've known people (hell, I've done it) who have picked up a one nighter at the club and others who have met a long term partner.

    It happens. Human emotions are a funny thing. You can click with someone anywhere.
     
  13. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Not being funny, just pointing out that you are a fucking idiot.

    But then, I probably don't need to. Your posts do that all by themselves
     
  14. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    dancing, drinking, etc.....

    Just because a girl goes to the club doesn't mean she goes home with a different guy every night.
     
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    ok gonna do it.

    Call or message?

    Message is a bit less formal.... but sort of wussing out.

    Call can be awkward perhaps.... but Im quick on my feet.

    hmm.
     
  16. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    call her you soft cock
     
  17. brasheye

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    :rofl:

    Too late. Messaged her and she was wondering what was taking so long

    :h5:

    Happy as Rkelly at Recess right now :hs:
     
  18. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    :bowdown:

    Good work son.

    How you been anyway?
     
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    brasheye Rotary Crew

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    Yeah good bro, living the dream one day at a time I suppose.

    How are you? Still Planning towns and hitting the pipe?
     
  20. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Yeah, looking at moving to the UK to work in Urban Regeneration next year, moving more into the development side of things

    Spent 3 months over there as well as spain and france which was fucking awesome. Hash is plentiful and legal in barcelona
     

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