SRS Social problems.

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  1. korverftw

    korverftw New Member

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    I'm a friendly guy and I definitely have no problem talking with people or makng a good impression. I've had plenty of jobs and can make friends when I want to. The problem is I'm uncomfortable when it comes to meeting new people. My friends constantly ask me to go to parties and I have to make excuses because something about it just doesn't feel right. Deep down, I know good things would happen if I went (meeting new friends, girls, etc).

    I have 2-3 friends that I hang out with (which is fine IMO) but most of the time I truly prefer sitting in my room playing guitar and watching TV. Again, I'm a reasonably good looking, charming person. I've had girlfriends and jobs like a normal guy but I just don't feel comfortable going to parties and stuff. Is this something I can get over?
     
  2. Eat Shit

    Eat Shit OT Supporter

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    im the same wayyyy, id rather sit here and entertain myself than go out and be around a bunch of new people.
     
  3. Daria

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    Personally, I hate parties. I don't drink or smoke and I hate small talk. I feel most relaxed when I'm at home. I think some people are just like this.

    However, as long as you go out with your friends to do things you like (ie. sports, movies, dinners, etc.), you'll be OK. Spend time with people that are most important to you. Force yourself to go to a party just once in awhile for the chance to meet new people. Keep a reasonable balance.
     
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    Hehe. You sound like a mirror image of me.
     
  5. Darketernal

    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    Ah yeah well it comes down to that you need to 'kick the feeling' out of your life. Just because it doesn't 'feel' right, doesn't mean it isn't right. Just put your mind on zero and go for it.
     
  6. OniMinion

    OniMinion ...recalls when this forum was actually about cars OT Supporter

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    Wow, I can't believe how people feel that way! I lived my life with two mottos...
    "You always regret the chances you never take" (e.g., usually the outcomes can yield great potential)
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    "Face your fears, don't avoid your fears."
     
  7. GuantanamoBay

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    I'm like that too. We're just introverted.

    Extrovert recharge energy when talking to people and spend it when alone.
    Introvert spend energy when talking to people and recharge it when alone.
     
  8. OniMinion

    OniMinion ...recalls when this forum was actually about cars OT Supporter

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    I guess my point is that you can change that.

    Christ, read "The Game" by Neil Strausss... It's not just a book about being a pickup artist - it's a book about changing yourself as a person. Confidence is very attractive, you need to learn how to use it. sitting at home is an excuse, not a state-of-mind - that is a bullshit excuse you created to justify your actions.

    No one meets friends, girls, or gets the job of their dreams mopping at home! Read the book, before Neal is Style, he is a total dork with the same "introverted" mentality. The book is about him changing from a caterpillar to a butterfly. It's not just how to get laid.
     
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    northw3st New Member

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    There's nothing wrong with that. Be yourself. Next question please.
     
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    I'm much the same way. I can be friendly, I can be approached easily. But when meeting new people, I tend to be very shy. As a result, I tend to push people away or hide/get away from them.

    I only have a couple of friends. The problem is that I have started resenting them.

    Pretty soon I'm sure I'll have no one.
     
  11. disley

    disley Ooooh no it isn't. Ooooh yes it is. OT Supporter

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    Be careful, as an older person, I've seen the last 25 years fly by and wonder where they went. Don't waste your time, you can find someone who likes a quiet life like you to settle down with.
     
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    Most people grow the most when they are forced out of their comfort zone.

    I have a friend who made it a point to say, "yes," whenever he was invited somewhere... he didn't stay long much of the time, but he found that his commitment to accepting invitations helped him a lot socially.
     
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    jesus, most of you in this forum are so god damn emo.
     
  14. OniMinion

    OniMinion ...recalls when this forum was actually about cars OT Supporter

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    ...constructive comment...
     
  15. Daria

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    No one? I got the job of my dreams by "mopping" at home doing my homework and going to class.

    As for friends and boyfriends, I met them through school and work and I definitely would not have met the particular people in my life at parties.

    I don't go to parties. I'm not a social butterfly. I couldn't be happier with my life as it is, with friends and a partner who accept me for who I am and who all hang out with me doing the same things I like to do.
     
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    it is possible to resolve this problem with practice. I had this problem growing up, but as I get older and get more experience being around people, I am less and less this way

    Why are you starting to resent them?
     

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