so would getting into a relationship with this girl be pointless?...

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  1. Dsking85

    Dsking85 New Member

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    i've met this really nice girl that i would like to date but i'm trying to figure out if it would be worth it or not, or if i should just save myself the trouble. she has a lot of weird stuff about her. I think she's a great girl but all these problems could come back to bite me in the ass later. here's a list:

    1. Goes to community college and is a C student (this bothers me b/c i'm a senior at a university in the Pre-vet biology program).
    2. had a terrible childhood (didn't meet her dad until she was 16, and was abused by her mom. moved in with a friend at 16)
    3. was molested by her step dad from the age of 7-16
    4. she's moody. she can get kinda mad for no reason whatsoever.
    5. does not trust men very much. i imagine that this will get in the way of us becoming close.

    i'm really thinking that i should just pass this one up and move on, but i really like her for some reason. I'm looking for a long term thing since i'm almost done with college and will want to settle down soon. I'm sure my feelings for her are clouding my judgement though, so what do ya'll think?
     
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    keysmachine New Member

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    the lack of a father figure normally leads girls to being players like a mother fuck. or users and abusers. Its not their fault though, they just don't really trust men and tend to develop HPD (histronic personality disorder)
     
  3. Man we can't figure out if it'll be "worth it" for you or not. If it seems like a chore to even decide if you wanna be with her or not then I think you already have your answer.
     
  4. Oh yeah and after reading that list, I gotta say "fuck no."
     
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    how long have you known her? sounds like the gave up those details pretty quickly...
     
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    Dsking85 New Member

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    we've known each other for like 4 months but have only been seriously "talking" for 2ish.
     
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    sportsjunkie OT Supporter

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    if she's nice and you dig her to some extent and you feel like you can handle her and all of her "baggage", then i don't see the problem.
    I think she may have told you all of these things because maybe she just wanted to dish out all her "dirt" so that you could make the decision on whether or not you want to pursue her or move on.

    it's all up to you and your preference
     
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    JustaMeThang New Member

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    Give it a shot, if things get too bizarre, abort.
     
  9. bimmer318

    bimmer318 I'm out of applesauce

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    4 months is a long time... Did you have sex yet? Probably not?
     
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    Dsking85 New Member

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    yes
     
  11. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    the answer to this question is always, always yes, with obvious exceptions (prison time, STD's).

    what's going to go wrong? she will be clingy, or cheat, or leave you, or you will get bored, or all four in some combination...?

    that happens anyway.

    romance is not something anyone can enjoy doing while playing it safe, however much the pussies in this forum might wish differently.

    here's your game plan:

    1. Go with the flow
    2. Make a mess

    Whatever happens, you will grow.
     
  12. MattThom01

    MattThom01 New Member

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    Honestly? It doesn't sound like you're that compatible. And some of the things you listed are BIG issues, and will make for some significant obstacles in maintaining the relationship.
     
  13. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Yikes. I certainly wouldn't bother.
     
  14. Property

    Property :fu:

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    srsly i want to know more about this
    i grew up without a father figure... except maybe a grandfather

    pm me the details plzkthnx
     
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    lauren Active Member

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    wanna have some psychiatry fun? read about borderline personality disorder (closely associated with histrionic).... you'll think everyone with a vag has it.
     
  16. b16

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    nuf said. unless you think you can change her mind about the male gender lol
     
  17. sportsjunkie

    sportsjunkie OT Supporter

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    lolz, doc diagnosed me with this :o
     
  18. antihero

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    its not all that hard most of the time
     
  19. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    maintenance ftl

    you should just get in a relationship with her and see where it goes
     

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