SO won't have rough sex...

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  1. Lindsay Loham

    Lindsay Loham New Member

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    So last night me and the SO were talking, and he mentioned how he really enjoys rough sex but can't seem to do it with me because he really loves me and thinks I'm precious.

    I want him to enjoy sex, and want him to feel like he can be rough with me. How can I stop him from thinking I'm too precious for rough sex?

    and by rough I mean slapping, pinching, and biting.
     
  2. Lindsay Loham

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    That might work. I told him I can handle it, but I guess I need to show him.
     
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  4. MP18

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    i got rough and nasty (really nasty) with my ex and it never changed my opinion of her :dunno:

    you do some crazy shit when you're horny, being able to keep that separate from the other parts of your relationship is key

    i think that rough sex is portrayed most dominantly in our society by porn and college whores being slutty, but that's not the only place for it, it can be part of a loving, respectful relationship and I think it's healthy
     
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    this is fun tho :o

    fantasies rule, don't let some stereotype ruin it for your relationship
     
  6. ldaggerl

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    I love that rough stuff (as from reading so do a lot of people) I found it pretty hard to slap my ex also but once she showed me how I kind of just jumped into it. I think if you lead by example he'll follow you where ever you want to go with it.
     
  7. victimizati0n

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    he seems like a fag

    he wants to make it like he is so much in love with you and could never hurt you, dont give in to his bullshit he just wants you to start telling him to fuck you rough during sex.
     
  8. MP18

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    don't get me wrong, i draw the line myself in places

    it's too bad we're flooded with messages that any sex other than missionary staring into ur SO's eyes = meaningless whore sex
     
  9. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I used to be like that. What changed me was a woman pushing me to cross that boundary. You tell him it's okay to be rough, then get rough enough with him that he either has to let himself be abused or be rough back. If he's half a man, he'll push back.
     
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    This is what I was thinking. If you taint his ego he should come back twice as strong. At least that is what I would do. And let me tell you that would be one of my better sexual nights if it happened.

    Maybe your mindset entering the room is giving him the vibe it's wrong or not right. Act a little dirty or whorish so he see it fits the role for him to abuse you more so than normal. IE dont have scented candles going with flowers on the bed. Maybe start making fun of him for small playful things till you start "rough housing" with each other. And then take that to the bedroom. Where he just wants to pin you down and fuck you till you come?
     
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    maybe he's just afraid of you crying rape and publicly embarrassing him.
     
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    I tried to be playful yesterday in a rough way, and he just told me to stop and moved away...

    Maybe I'll try again.
     
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    Heck I'll plan the whole thing out for you.

    Ok he gets home from work you make a decent dinner then relax on the couch for a nice movie or tv show and let him sit infront of you so you can message his back a little. After about 20 or so minutes lightly run you fingers through his hair (most guys like that, I know I do) then once and a while pull lightly and slowly increase it till he really notices. He might get the whole your doing it to hard, then call him a sissy and get up and challenge him to wrestle or pillow fight. If he truely wants some rough sex this will all be amazing fore-play that should have his train moving. During the fight magically either rip some clothes off or just say it is getting hot and take some off. Well if you don't know what to do from he failure is always an option.

    Update when you are finished.
     
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    hmm could it have been his mood? Like would he have sex with you if it wasn't this new rough way? Or did he just flat out not want any action?
     
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    Tell him "stop being a pussy and fuck the shit out of me". If that doesn't do it, he is in fact a pussy.
     
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    we ended up having sex, it just wasn't rough
     
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    Is this something you want, or something you want because he wants it?

    I'd suggest start by talking dirty. Get his aggression up.

    Make sure you're giving the right signals, too. If he pulls your hair, moan like a dirty whore. You're going to have to show him that not only can you take it, but that you want it.
     
  18. victimizati0n

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    next time you guys have sex, you need to slap him in the face and tell him to call you his dirty little whore or you are gonna stop

    maybe that will get him interested
     
  19. iwishyouwerebeer

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    :barf: He has a Madonna complex with you, that would drive me insane. Then again every guy I've ever been with has viewed me as the sultry vixen so it's bever been a problem. You're going to have to step up the kink to show him you mean it.
     
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    Oh and how fragile are you? I had one gf who wanted me to be rougher with her, but she bruised/got hurt so easily. If you want your guy to be rough and you say things like "ow my hair" or "careful" EVER in the bedroom, then odds are you're sending mixed messages and he feels its better to be safe than sorry. Might not be the case, but I figured I'd mention it just on the off chance.
     
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    XxvODvxX New Member

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    I'm with babylon on this one. It's hard to do certain things with your SO that you would do with a random hook-up. as previously stated initiate it. If he doesn't react positively the first couple of times maybe he was lying about it...
     
  22. Lindsay Loham

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    I'm really careful not to say those things, however last night we were getting a little rough, and he left a mark on me and now feels bad. I told him it was ok and that it didn't hurt, and that I liked it. I dunno how to stop him from feeling bad.
     
  23. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Eh, you might be stuck with him the way he is now. I used to be all gentle with my ex and even though she mentioned a few times she wanted me to be less gentle, I never got over it with her. Good luck though. He doesn't know what he's missing.
     
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    Next time during sex insult him, in a hot/erotic kind of way. "Are you afraid to slap me, you little pussy" "Choke me you bitch"

    Ok, so that might be a little to much, haha, but anything along those lines would get me going instantly. :o
     
  25. Memopad

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    I've been happy to give a slap or pull some hair when requested, but if a girl ever said "slap me you pussy" or called me a bitch or something i'd probably kick her ass out. I just don't see how that would work or is necessary.
     

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