so why do guys like you when you don't give them attention?

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  1. drinkdran0

    drinkdran0 New Member

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    wtf??

    so i've been seeing this guy. when i'm nice to him, give him attention, i feel like he's not that interested. then i'll feell all confused and stop talking to him for a while. then what do you know, he keeps on trying to talk to me when i stop talking to him. so does this have to do with the whole hard to get thing??
     
  2. drinkdran0

    drinkdran0 New Member

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    well it is repetitive and it sucks... is it ever gonna change?
     
  3. the ground folds

    the ground folds rest your trigger on my finger

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    no it isnt, u need to find a middle ground.
     
  4. Star Fox 87

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    if he doesnt like u then go 4 someone eles and make him feel bad but if u like him then i duno talk to him about it chances are your not his only one
     
  5. MattThom01

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    What you define as "giving him attention" could be "giving way too much attention/suffocating me" to the guy.
     
  6. drinkdran0

    drinkdran0 New Member

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    i think im pretty hard to get too... so for any guy to think im suffocating is beyond me.

    i think it just boils down to he doesnt like me
     
  7. BradUF

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    Clingyness bothers us a ton.
     
  8. MP525i

    MP525i New Member

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    i would move on then.

    don't waste your time on this guy if you don't like the games he is playing. personally, i hated those types of games.

    kinda reminds me of that wedding crashers line with vince when he's like, "should i act like i'm not interested, but i really am interested, but i don't want her to think i'm interested...."
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Fuck people who live their life like that (not literally). If you don't like me until I treat you like crap or ignore you then there's something wrong.
     
  10. MrInconsistant

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    gonna go into biology the slightest bit

    in interesexual selection (selection of a mate between the sexes), there's a thing called the limiting sex (the sex with fewer individuals, and therefore the more valued one). in most cases, the female is the limiting sex, meaning that men males will be cometing for her attention, so to gain their approval, and a chance to mate with them.

    the same idea can be translated to dating, women are usually the limiting sex (even though there are more women than men), meaning men have to win their approval for a chance at afternoon delight. if a woman doesn't have high standards, something instinctively tells the male that there's something wrong with the female, that they'll grab on to any mate, this shows low value. so for a male to want to mate with a female, they have to have some standards, otherwise men think that they have bad genes that no one would want.

    hope that makes sense
     
  11. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    Personally I love attention and my wife gives me the most so she is the winner.

    I've always been most interested in the girls who show me the most interest, that's part of my personality.
     
  12. micks

    micks the snausage wallet OT Supporter

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    change your phone number/block his emails/etc.. problem solved.

    EDIT: I know some phone companies will let you block some phone numbers if you wish.
     
  13. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    narcissistic? :rofl:
     
  14. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    I had to learn to love myself, so I don't think I'm narcissitic.

    According to my sun sign, Leo, my weaknesses include:

    pride, vanity, arrogance, presumption and disdain of others

    The first three are actually countered by my rising sign, Mercury, and Venus all being in Virgo. People-pleasing is a Virgo trait, so I've intentionally embraced my Leo "weaknesses" and its really balanced me out as a person.

    I will say without hesitation that I know myself better than anyone else here knows themselves, and its a huge reason why people respond to me.
     
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    some people prefer to 'chase'. it's part biology, but more a part of how you grew up. sounds like he doesn't want you but is afraid to have you leave.

    dump him- boy has issues. find a guy who appreciates and returns your attentions in a mature fashion.
     
  16. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    It's good to love yourself, that's how confidence forms :) I was more thinking about how you tattoo your name on your wife's ass...
     
  17. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    hey, we all have different forms of foreplay ;)
     
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    are you sure he was not a woman before he met you? jk :)

    sounds to me like he likes to play games, i personally cant stand that shit and id just move on and find a more mature guy.
     
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    :( my bf did that to me after he read that thread... then sat there and giggled like a little girl until i figured out what had happened....then he would giggle everytime he would look at my butt.
     
  20. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    :bowdown:

    Hey dude if you read this next time write "YB" and take a picture for us
     
  21. fray

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    he probably will now too. thanks. :( the pic would be my ass and me flipping off the camera though probably...
     
  22. fray

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    Wasn't sure what the pic posting rules were for the Vag, so it's in my profile. Check it out. (NWS/NSFV/MDL) I had hard time getting my other arm up to flip you off though. Sorry.
     
  23. fray

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    oh sorry...meant to define for you.. NSFV = not safe for viewing, MDL = May Decrease Libido.

    Oops!
     
  24. fray

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    that really works out well with it at the bottom of the page too...now no one will suspect a thing until it's too late!
     
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    true. like your new av
     

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