so we fought last night over sex

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  1. bubzee

    bubzee New Member

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    this is the 1st time we fought over it, we had to wait a week for last night and then nothing happened, took her out for dinner nad a movie...and nohting happen, so i was pissed, now she is pissed and i feel like a douche, how do i make it up to her?
     
  2. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    ive fought over it before too. it sucks
     
  3. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    yeah thats frustrating.

    how's the rest of the relationship, particularly the rest of your sex life?
     
  4. lauren

    lauren Active Member

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    were you pissed that she wouldn't put out, or how she handled not putting out.


    likewise, was she pissed that you wanted sex, or how you handled it?
     
  5. HuskiRuski

    HuskiRuski Cardinal Fan

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    she's probably pissed that you "expected" to get some and you put too much pressure on her to provide it when she didn't necessarily want to.

    what's important in the big picture is why she didn't want to. if she wasn't feeling well or was really tired or something, that's ok. but it could be for more important reasons.

    just my 2 cents. i could be off completely.
     
  6. Yuppy

    Yuppy Have a seat right there....

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    she always gets mad when i get upset that she doesnt put out (twice) its always the same fight, shes like wtf, and im like wtf, and weve dated a year, when i want it i should get it. thats all there is to it.
     
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    dloseke Noobish Silver Member

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    IMO, you can't expect sex just for taking her out...hey, it's nice if she wants to, but she's not a $2 hooker I'm guessing, then you can't expect sex for spending money on her. Just gotta wait it out I think...it will blow over but don't go in with expectations of sex in the future
     
  8. lauren

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    who doesn't expect sex nearly every time they have a date with their SO? expecting it isn't the issue, justifying it through dinner and movies is.
     
  9. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I don't even understand what the fuck happened. Please explain in better detail.
     
  10. SpectraRedZ

    SpectraRedZ New Member

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    I've fought over it a few times too. When I wanted it, but the fiance didn't feel like it. Eh. There'll be plenty more times, so I don't even worry about it anymore.
     
  11. CaiWooBlue

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    I don't understand fighting over sex, because one person wants to and the other doesnt. If my husband isnt in the mood, i am not going to enjoy it because i know he isnt into it as much as i am, and he says the same thing.

    Sure if we had gone a long time without, i would wonder what the underlying issue is, but i mean a long time, not just a week, without any obvious reason why, such as period, company over, work schedules, toddlers running amuck, etc.

    If my husband pressured me to have sex when it was obvious i was not in the mood, i would not be happy at all.
     
  12. Mr. Bungle

    Mr. Bungle *lube'n up the shock paddles*

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    Maybe you suck at it? :dunno:

    Sorry I just hate when men think that way...my ex did. Hence one of the reasons why he's an ex.
     
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    yankeeschick14 New Member

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    . your opinion somewhat offends me for the sake of your SO. she's not just something you fuck that doesnt have thoughts or feelings of her own.
     
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    :ugh::ugh::ugh:
     
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    I just wouldnt expect it everytime you see her..some people dont need sex as much as others...maybe she is tired or just doesnt want to everytime you see eachother... TALK About it but only if it continues for more than a week; then there is a problem
     
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    I too tell my fiance if he really doesn't want it, then don't do it because I don't want to be getting it on with someone who's not into it. (He admitted once that he HAD just done it to "keep me happy" and pretended he wanted it too. That didn't go over well with me). It makes it shitty for me too. The only few times we really got into an argument over it was when we'd start something, and then he'd tell me he was too tired to actually go on and have sex or get off. (He's never had me turn him down yet, so it hasn't gone the other way in the last 3 years). I'd wonder what was wrong if we started and then stopped before the sex happened, even though that's where it was headed.

    But we both work a lot, and we're both like "whatever" if we have a night without it. I'm always down for it, no matter how tired I am, but we don't argue about it anymore. That was pretty dumb of us. There'll be many many more days and nights. :wiggle:
     
  18. MissKitty

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    There have been times when I want it and he doesn't and where he wants it and I don't. However we have never fought over it, EVER!
     
  19. Viper

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    This may or may not have to do with with what happened, but I'll say it anyways for the guys:

    Look, she'll stop using sex as a bargaining tool in the relationship the moment you prove to her that you can live without it. ;)
     
  20. Yuppy

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    i dont expect it, but if she doesnt want it she should tell me before she rubs up on my cock
     
  21. MattThom01

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    stop treating it like currency.

    You took her out in exchange for sex. She didn't put out, so you gt pissed because you felt like you wasted time/money on her?

    Here's a thought: Don't take someone out because you want them to sex you. Take them out because you want to go out and spend time in public with them.

    My honest thought is that you didn't really factor her into the equation. You saw 'take her to dinner" as equaling sex.

    She picked up on this vibe, felt like an object, and shot you down.
     
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    you fail at getting laid.jpg
     
  23. lauren

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    which pic is that one again?
     
  24. demosnat

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    I fought with my ex over sex ALL the time. It was one of the many undoings of our relationship.
     
  25. MissKitty

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