So...wait to call her right?

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  1. scottmcl

    scottmcl New Member

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    Hooked up with her on Wed. Left my number in the morning and left.

    She called me on Friday, She had spent 1 whole day sleeping, and the other studying for a midterm on Friday

    We Talk for around 15 min, she says she is going on a retreat with a few other sorority girls. Made a point of asking if I had Caller I.D, so that I had her number now... Said she would call me later....

    3.)....So no call on Sat/Sunday

    4.) Should I wait till classes are over on Monday and give her a call...or keep waiting?

    thanks..
     
  2. garagegenius

    garagegenius New Member

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    I'd call her. :dunno: Sometimes people get busy, and she might just want to see how interested you are. You really don't have anything to lose.
     
  3. d3cromanc3r

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    just my opinion, but i think this whole waiting to call thing is ridiculous.

    i don't think it's about when you call, as it is how often you try to call or how you sound.

    i've called the next day and had success. and i've had girls call the next day and not even thought twice about it.

    it's just when you call the next day, and they don't answer, so you call again, and again and again
     
  4. Ford4Life

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    Agree, it's all bullshit. Just call her.
     
  5. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Call her tomorrow :dunno: If she doesn't answer then your part is done.
     
  6. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    NEVER make it the girl's responsibility to call you until you've started a sexual relationship. It's ALWAYS your duty.
     
  7. Viper

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    Wow, holy shit. Actual advice.
     
  8. scottmcl

    scottmcl New Member

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    Yeah...well the 'relationship' started with sex so...

    :ugh:
     
  9. ware_ru

    ware_ru I know, I know, I'm amazing

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    lol, sorry, a lot of people say "hook up" when they dont mean actual sex (I think they do it just to infuriate me)... anyway, regardless, I wouldn't be expecting a girl to be calling YOU until you've established some sort of routine and relationship where you've had sex a few times.

    Also, "I'll call you later" isn't necessarily an actual commitment from someone, whether guy or girl, so don't be disappointed if you don't get the call.
     
  10. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    This is what I was going to ask.

    Since you've already fucked her just call her...no big deal.

    No need to play games.
     
  11. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    call only with to invite her on a date or to get some booty

    don't call to chat and dont chat on text

    /thread
     
  12. MiseryIndex

    MiseryIndex i never know why. i only know who. Moderator

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  13. scottmcl

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    Called her...

    No answer,

    I should have left a message I guess, but she has my number.

    Now I wait. . .I guess I shouldn't call again for awhile eh?
     
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    I actually disagree, though it DOES depend on the context...

    With someone I just met the first call will 100% ALWAYS just be to shoot the shit for a few minutes. It's one of the few "rules" I still have for this shit.

    But texting can become a trap. Big time. Though it's a very valuable tool other times.

    If you want just some bang time then by all means call and get her over. Recently I'm very disinterested in just random hookups. So maybe my advice is geared towards establishing a relationship instead of hookup.

    Then again I'll be the first to admit I'm not the person to ask for advice about long long term relationships.
     
  15. giz

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    Good job on calling her. I wouldn't call again.

    Most girls WON'T initiate calls, even if they like you. You have to be proactive.

    Also, on texting, I like it :dunno: I think its a great way to have a casual, witty conversation during the day when a call is impossible. Just be aware of how the flow is going and try to be the one to end the convo.
     
  16. scottmcl

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    Okay... we talked

    Having coffee on Thursday

    Now..I have to find a way of ask if this was just a hook up or if she wants to see eachother again.

    You guys have been great...just a little more advice?

    Believe it or not spit balling here helps me build confidence for the real event. Then in the future I can be casual enough about it to think on my feet.
     
  17. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    and this is a direct result of the fact that MOST women play games by default
     
  18. giz

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    You don't have to ask, you'll know by how well your convo goes on Thursday. Find something going on this weekend that you'd like to go to, and if you feel like you like this chick, invite her to join you.
     
  19. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    when you ask a woman a direct, logical question you will rarely receive a direct, logical response

    you can only figure out how she views the interaction by her actions

    her words in most cases will only lead you astray

    also these types of conversations tend to lower her interest imo
     
  20. giz

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    Agree. I think with a lot of them it's a mentality or "rule" that is taught to them as they grow up.
     
  21. giz

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    right, avoid the interview date. come up with some stories from your past that she could possibly relate to. it's easy and shows that you have character and a whole person within yourself, you don't need her.

    initiating a story can be as fluid and simple as saying "wow, that painting reminds me of this time..."
     
  22. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :hsugh: If it was just a "hookup" she wouldn't be setting up when you'd talk next and certainly wouldn't be accepting a date offer.

    So instead of losing credibility by sounding pathetic and asking her after one sexual encounter "what is this that we are doing!?" you go with the flow. Keep going on dates, keep sleeping together. Figure out if she is someone you'd like to have a label with or not. Stop worrying about what SHE is thinking. Think about yourself and what you want.
     
  23. scottmcl

    scottmcl New Member

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    You guys are all totally right,

    What the hell am I so anxious about?...

    I need to be more relaxed and casual.

    I told myself every time I start obsessing I have to go for a run...Right now I am bathed in sweat.

    So either I will be really fit in a few weeks...or a real casual down to earth guy.

    Win ,win?
     
  24. LBFilmGuy

    LBFilmGuy LOL why u mad tho?

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    You already fucked her.

    Relax.
     
  25. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :werd:
    :rofl:
     

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