...we get along quite well, never a shortage of stuff to talk about. It sounds like I'd get along with a lot of his friends as well. He actually got his job through a reference from someone else who used to work here who we were both friends with. I've been thinking about asking him if I can go to one of their movie nights to meet some of them, but honestly I'm scared he'll scoff at it and basically tell me to go hang out with my own friends, as if I have any in the area, which I don't. I have no rational basis to think he'd react that way, but factors in my upbringing (and in my adult life as well, honestly) have taught me to favor the worst-case scenario and to be extremely risk-averse when it comes to getting to know people on a personal basis, even platonically. A couple of times a day I think to ask him about it, and then I instantly imagine him blowing me off and I decide to put it off. It's starting to affect my mood in general. I don't know what to do about it. Well...I know what to do about it, I just don't know how to feel better about doing it. The kids I grew up with were experts at holding me at arm's length, because I wasn't from their little town and I didn't fit into any of the personality types they were familiar with. God I hate that place. Anyway, while I live somewhere else now, I know that unlike me he grew up where we both live now, and he's known his friends for years and years. I doubt he appreciates how difficult it can be to meet people like us when you don't have the benefit of growing up with them -- or rather, it's been my experience that people who still live where they grew up have a hard time appreciating that. Advice?