SRS So the wife is leaving me

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  1. Carl Brutananadilewski

    Carl Brutananadilewski Active Member

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    It's a long story that I'm not explaining. I am, however, sitting here drinking some Captain and seriously questioning whether the last 7 1/2 years of my life have been worth it, and how all the sacrifices I made in that time just brought me where I'm at now, which is pretty much nowhere.

    :sadwavey:
     
  2. Joybang

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    Stay strong and don't become too friendly with that bottle. It doesn't help you any.

    When you 're ready to get some stuff off your chest we'll be here.

    :hug:
     
  3. Jester

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    Oh wow. Sorry to hear that. I would suggest doing things that are tangible and easy accomplish on a daily basis that improve aspects of yourself that you are unhappy with. Try to find some new music or something, too. Not sad, depressing music, either.

    After you go on your week long bender, of course. :o

    You'll be alright, man. We all fuck up at some point. But tomorrow is a totally different story. :cool:
     
  4. Carl Brutananadilewski

    Carl Brutananadilewski Active Member

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    Thanks for the kind words.

    At some point I may tell the whole story; maybe somebody can benefit from the hard lessons I learned (although they probably won't; I didn't listen to anyones' advice when these problems first started :hs: )
     
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    Some of us have to learn things the hard way. I sure have. :o
     
  6. Xin

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    You did as best as you knew how given the circumstances, and it led you to be with someone you cared for for 7.5 years. Be happy in what you experienced, the good and the bad, for it has allowed you to experience some very happy times that you will cherish, and also for some lessons that you probably needed to learn.

    Don't beat yourself up too much, if you find yourself resorting to the bottle for a decent period of time, always remember AA is there to help you, and it's free.
     
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    :sadwavey: stay strong bro!
     
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    tattooed_sailor New Member

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    went through that myself recently..

    she had more important things going on in her life

    Just don't drink or use right now, I know you think it will make you feel better, but it makes it worse.

    Go get a shrink, it helps unlike the bottle or the other stuff
     
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    Life's about learning from the past. It hurts today but will make you stronger tomorrow.
     
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    Good luck,
    Quit drinking and go for a run.
    Drinking leads to depression and bad thoughts.
     
  13. Paulie Walnuts

    Paulie Walnuts Im an agent of chaos

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    Oh fuck man Im fresh off that boat and totally know what you mean. Im here for you if you want to talk man. Im going through the same as you just 8 weeks a head of you.
    AIM: PaulieWalnuts447
     
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    mine too :hsd:
     
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    mikdavi84 OT Supporter

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    what?
     
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    ya....crazy long story....not 100% though

    my wife is one confused chic...other than the bs that comes with that...shes amazing though :hs:
     
  17. Lucky Penny

    Lucky Penny Mr. cut me some slack cause I don't wanna go back,

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    :hug: so sorry guys. My thoughts and prayers are with you guys, Hang in there. :hs:
     
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  19. Carl Brutananadilewski

    Carl Brutananadilewski Active Member

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    Thanks for the kind words guys (and gals).

    After feeling sorry for myself for a little while, I am back onto my feet, sorta. I am trying to turn this into a positive instead of dwelling on this shit and getting depressed about it :hs:
     
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    sorry man
     
  21. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    You know what....I seriously doubt that 7 years with someone left you NOWHERE. I mean sure you're hurting and you're sad that things aren't working out but come on....it wasn't a total waste.

    I've had bad relationships in the past and they were still good for me. I learned something along the way.

    But hang tough man....this too shall pass.
     
  22. RedZ71

    RedZ71 Large Marge sent me.

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    sorry to hear that man, im going thru the same thing, 3 weeks out. i know exactly how you feel, with the wasted time and (now seemingly) worthless sacrifices, only to turn around and realize youve been shit on.

    just try to concentrate on the future, and less on the past.
     
  23. Paulie Walnuts

    Paulie Walnuts Im an agent of chaos

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    Welcome to the club man. Im here for you if need be, I just may not want to talk about my situation right that moment. Hebrew Hammer and I chatted up for a bit last night. Hell of a good guy.

    Feel free to hit me up via AIM: PaulieWalnuts447


    Cliffs: All women are lying cheating whores.
     
  24. bunnyblueeyes

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    Very, Very True. Even when it is hard to see that truth

    good luck!
     
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    registeredPORK Happy Poo Poo

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    If you ever need an ear, we're here for you! We're better then the bottle... :)
     

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