Uh, where do I start? I'm not one for typing out these rambling stories, but I didn't feel comfortable turning to anyone else but my beloved Vag crew. I started talking to this girl on okcupid about two months ago, and after two weeks it seemed like things were going really well so I asked her to get coffee with me (we apparently had a mutual favorite brew stop). It also turned out we had a lot of mutual acquaintances, so that was kind of a bonus. Anyway, shortly after I did that, she closes her account and tells me to add her on facebook... and shortly after that, she tells me she's taking a hiatus from dating for a while. I took her at face value and left it at that, since we hadn't been talking too long and hadn't actually done anything together. We didn't talk for a few weeks, until she showed up at my usual Thursday bar. It was the first time we'd seen each other in person, but I didn't want to be 'that guy' so I pretended not to notice her. I guess one of my friends has her as a TA, so they were talking and towards closing he comes over and tells me I should talk to her, she's been saying how cute I am, etc. So I walk over, tap her on the shoulder, and we get right on talking, hanging out, long after closing. Eventually she asks me if I wanna take a walk-- even though I have shit to do the next morning, I roll the dice and go with her. As far as I know, we're just walking around downtown, until she stops and says "well, this is my apartment." I thought she just had me walk her home until she invited me in. Even then, we end up talking to one of her roommates in the kitchen for an hour until she's like "okay. I'm gonna go downstairs." I figure that's my cue to head home, until she gives me that finger motion like "come on". We just hang out in her room, listening to music and talking, it's going nicely. Getting closer, and closer. Once she's spooned up next to me, I decide to tuck her head back and kiss her (this is new for me, usually the girl makes a move at me or nothing happens), and we end up making out/talking for a while. Somehow she brings up stuff about her ex (who she dated when she went on her first "dating hiatus") cheating on her, and asks if I'm leading her on. Of course, I'm not. I end up sleeping over until the next morning... when I stumbled through downtown back to my apartment so I can get ready for work Things seemed to be running pretty smooth, we kept talking for another couple weeks. But when I tried to get her to hang out (maybe once or twice over two weeks), she'd say she was feeling sick. Maybe she was, I have no idea. I know she's busy with her thesis, too. (sit tight, we're finally getting to the end) after those two weeks, spring break rolls around. She's in DC, I'm back home in STL. I send her a facebook message on the first Sunday, and a phone call on Friday. I think there was a text somewhere in the middle that she responded to. She didn't reply to the facebook message until the next Sunday (yesterday, actually), where she told me a little about her trip, asked me about my break, and then wrote this: "Look, I feel like I should tell you that I am not really up for dating anyone right now. I wanted to call you and talk to you about it, but I'm wimping out. It sounds retarded, but I think sometimes when you get burned bad it seems easier to lay low for awhile. When I was younger I seemed to bounce from person to person but now I require long periods of solitude between dating people. It sounds stupid, but I really do want to be your friend. I'm just, still, in a weird place. And I have 75 pages of thesis to pound out before May 1. It's doable, but it won't be pretty and I really need to focus on work for a bit. Ah, I hate this email. At any rate, I did have fun hanging out and hope we can do it again sometime when I'm more normal." (I'm wholly uncomfortable posting that, but there's no name on it, so as long as she's not on OT we're golden) I really wasn't sure how to respond. The feeling I had reading that was oddly numb. The one person I asked about it said I shouldn't say anything at all. I was initially tempted to say something like "well, come find me when you think you're ready, and if I'm free, we'll figure something out." I haven't said anything so far. I wanted to know how Vag crew would respond/what do you think I should say? Oddly enough, I was pretty friendly around the workplace today. Usually something like this has me visibly bogged down.