SRS So rate my first date with this girl

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  1. kelvs

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    So I met this girl around 2 weeks ago. We can just say that she's a family friend.

    We text around a few times and I asked her last Sunday if she wanted to go play billiards with me.

    So I picked her up at 9pm and got to play some billiards til around 10:30pm. I won 5-1, should I have let her won instead ? :noes:

    Then we headed to Starbucks for a few coffee and just talked til almost 1am. Talked mostly about anything... from high school, to college, to friends, to past relationships, dates, etc.

    Am I heading into the right direction so far ? :noes:
     
  2. N-Word-Jim

    N-Word-Jim Cure for boredom

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    You're fine, but kiss her the next time you go out.
     
  3. DJ Winds

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    Your coming too close to the friends zone, you need to fix that.
     
  4. Coottie

    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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    Is this code for your cousin?
     
  5. kelvs

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    No. She's the neighboor of the friend of my grandma. :o

    how am i coming too close to the FZ ? :noes:

    and i'm not sure about the kissing part :eek3:
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    You answer this question quite well:
     
  7. DJ Winds

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    Friend zone
     
  8. infinite loop

    infinite loop Statistically speaking, the Yankees do indeed suck

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    you did fine. don't try to push it, do whatever feels right.

    how did the night end?
     
  9. johan

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    You aren't necessarily in the FZ yet, you did nothing wrong.

    However, you should AT LEAST put your arm around her (firmly!) and POSSIBLY kiss her on the next "date". Or else you will be firmly in the friendzone.

    Make your intentions CLEAR by the next date. You may get a 'no' but at least you will know.

    Don't be one of those dudes that accepts the grey twilight of not-knowing just so he can spend a little more time in her company (and in the fantasyland of denial).



    ========== the following are just general comments, not at you personally ========

    Never trade your balls for a little more up-close time. Accept only the real thing.

    Accepting less might seem harmless (hey, its a victimless crime!) but it isn't because deep-down inside, you know the truth which is why these guys are reluctant to broach the subject.

    And doing so eats away at your self-esteem, leaving you in worse shape for when the real thing does approach.

    And worse yet, it leaves you less able to distinguish the real thing. It's a vicious cycle.

    Never shit on your own head (don't bury your head in the sand -- be clear on FZ)
     
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    Coottie BOOMER......SOONER OT Supporter

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  11. kelvs

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    Well at first I asked her what time she should be home and she said probably around 12am. But we ended up talking past midnight and she says it's ok cause her parents aren't looking for her yet. So we just ended the night when Starbucks was closing around 1am and I just drove her home. Didn't walk her to the door or anything like that since there's no parking space and my car's on the street.

    You guys really sure about the kissing part next time ? :noes: What kind of a kiss exactly ? :hs: I'm only thinking about holding her hand :x:
     
  12. infinite loop

    infinite loop Statistically speaking, the Yankees do indeed suck

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    you don't have to full on tongue-fuck her, but you should let your intentions be known. next time you get in the car with her, feel her vibe and try to move in for the kiss.
     
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    Even if it is just a simple kiss on the cheek, it is better than nothing.
     
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    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    :wtf: Is this your first kiss or something? This isn't that difficult, if you like the girl you should want to kiss her. And kiss her on the lips, that's the only kind of kiss that matters.
     
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    :werd: How old are you?
     
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    just some kind of fucking kiss ... what a frustrating thread

    don't come back here without having kissed her
     
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    Now which other thread have I heard that in?
     
  18. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    did i say that somewhere else? or ur just pointing out how this stuff keeps repeating
     
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    if you dont kiss her after the 2nd date you're def in the friend zone :hs:
     
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    without exception? :rolleyes:
     
  21. johan

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    You want us to tell you what kind of kiss? You're missing the point. No one's saying you have to F her every facial orifice with your tongue.

    The point is to put out an unmistakeable "DATE" vibe, instead of a brotherly or friends-only vibe.

    That means you get playful. You get close. You put your arm around her. You hold her. You kiss her and gently breathe near her neck and ear. You move to kissing her on the cheek. You then slide over and she pulls you tight against her body and engages you in a deep kiss.


    If at ANY time during these steps, she pulls away or gives you the "ICKKK" reaction...sorry dude you're in the friendzone.
    She should WANT physical contact with you.

    So put out that vibe. Get it?
     
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    i understand where he's coming from completely. it's searching for the moment that is right to move in and kiss. she can't just get in the car and you pull her over to you and kiss her. Finding/judging the right time to kiss her is the hardest part..after that it's either all good or all no way.

    so here's my question...you all say kiss her on the 2nd date. would it be better to kiss her at the beginning/middle or end of the date?
     
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    What you do is to SLOWLY put out the vibe right from the beginning of the date.

    You don't just keep all schoolboy like, and then turn around and plant a wet one on her. The goal is to NOT take her by surprise.

    You put out the vibe, and then gradually turn up the volume over the whole evening.

    If she pulls back or resists or moves away...then you need to assess whether she's not into it, or you just moved a little too fast. Back off on the volume, then turn it up again.

    If she's really not into it, then it's done, don't be a dick -- just let her be. Have some class and self-respect (i.e. self-restraint).

    If you're getting the GO signal, then continue ramping up the volume as I listed in a previous post.



    You can therefore see that I can't give you an absolute timeline of when to kiss -- middle of evening, end of evening -- none of that.

    You have to keep turning up the volume, and when you've moved to having your arm around her, and you're in close to her, and you can definitely sense that SHE'S INTO IT, then....kiss her.

    It ain't rocket science. Learn to judge a woman's reactions.
    That's how you know WHEN to kiss. Stop looking at your watch, and start looking at HER.
     
  24. CharlesMNeo

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    hahha if you talked about past relationships its friendzone
     
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    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    There's a novel waiting to be written here.
     

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