First the facts: I'm 27 and my wife is 28, we've been married for seven years now and have two kids. We know that we're going to be together for the rest of our lives as we have already had our ups and down, and made it through them. We do TRULY love each other. I was sexually inexperienced before my wife and she was the first person I had slept with. My wife was VERY experienced, after being in the Marine Corps, with both men AND women. Over the past years she has taught me well and we have very few inhibitions in bed (anal; oral; etc..) Over the years I have heard her military sexcapade stories, and I admit, they are definitely arousing and I have always wondered if we would travel down an adventurous road. Every now and then she would mention that she would love to bring another woman in with us, but I really never gave it a second thought. Well, tonight she went shopping with one of her friends from high school (who was her first bisexual experience when she was 16) and they got around to talking about sex and such. Now this friend is our age and is divorced with no strings currently. After talking for awhile my wife mentions that she was thinking about adding a third person to our bed and her friend immediately volunteered, saying she would love to give it a try. So, obviously, my wife came home, filled me in on their little discussions, and we went at it like crazy with the ideas in our heads. I know it's "every man's fantasy" to be involved in this type of tangle of bodies, but I am tentative to say "yes." I know there can be several negatives, such as jealousy on everyone's part, but I am wondering if it is worth trying at least; to test it out. Who knows? Maybe we'll love it and it will add something to the bedroom for years to come? If not, we tried. If I were to say yes there would be a few ground rules: - I would have to meet this person a few times first in a non-sexual situation, just to see if there is chemistry. - At any time anyone one of us can say "stop" if we feel uncomfortable. - And there would be no sexual activity unless all three of us were present. I guess i'm asking for advice from people who have made this jump. What positives and negatives have come from it? Do you have any suggestions for before, during, and after? How frequently do you do it? And any other advice you can offer.... Thanks in advance!!