Just to note, this is unrelated to all the recent threads I have made. Those were just mental masturbation cuz I was bored. For the past 1.5 years my relationship with my gf has been awesome. By far the best relationship I've ever had: barely any drama, and she is the sweetest woman I have ever dated. Her interest level in me was always like 100, she was always trying to get close to me, or touch me, or snuggle, or kiss me, or tell me how much she loves me, etc. On days we're not together, we probably text each other 100 times a day with little random things. It's sweet, and I loved it. To give an example, I recently made the half-serious comment that "if I end up having Crohn's, I'm going to move to California so I can get medicinal marijuana" to which she replied "and I would move with you." So a week ago, I had a bit of an insecure moment over something. I saw her interest level drop. For the next few days, she probably texted me a total of 20 times, and they were super impersonal texts instead of the sweet things she usually sends me. This was confirmation of her loss of interest. During those days I was thinking that her drop in interst level was because of my insecurity, but I just had a revelation this morning that it was actually more likely because of how reactive I was, and not so much about the fact that I was insecure. I made a big deal out of something and had a very emotional reaction when I should have stayed more calm. That's actually very out of character for me. I went over to her place from Thursday through Saturday morning (now) and the dynamic was very different. She wasn't the super lovey dovey girl that I'd been dating for the last 1.5 years. We still snuggled and had (super hot) sex, but it felt different. It scared me. I realized that I'm in a bad place now where I'm afraid of losing her (I would never admit this to her, but I was literally an anxious wreck for a few days last week with no appetite and unable to focus on anything, I had no appetite, etc.) So what did that do? In typical textbook fashion, it made me super needy and clingy. As I was being an idiot and pointing out how things now feel differently between us, I even made the comment that "a month ago you would've moved to California with me, and now I don't think you would." She was like "I dunno, baby." I had a bit of an emo moment while we were together yesterday. I immediately recognized it that it was bad and not helping anything, and then to make matters worse I even said "wow, look at me now, being all needy and clingy. I'm sure this isn't helping anything." lol Anyway, before all this, she also admitted that things feel different between us now, but she still loves me and doesn't want to break up. What I am worried about is this: In the past, I have felt how she feels right now, and my gf at the time got super needy and clingy as a result and I ended up dumping her. I think that before last week, my gf was super into me and wouldn't have been interested in any other guy, but I think that now if the situation was right, she might allow herself to become interested in another guy. But last night I also had a revelation... I'm done being needy and insecure. I'm going to not text her unless she texts me first. I'm going to try to make myself busy so she can see I have other things going on in my life besides her. She knows how I feel, and I can't logically convince her to feel a certain way about me. If she's the right person for me, then this will work out, and if not, then it won't. But I'm going to put into play Yail's advice that no one here ever follows: "Nothing makes a girl want to be with you like ignoring her." I'm basically just going to try and be extra awesome for a while and hope that she'll get back to the place where she was before so our relationship can get back to how it was before. I'm definitely NOT going to be needy or clingy anymore or send some super needy text like "baby I miss you so much, I hope we can work through this." Like, that's exactly what I'm thinking, but sending a text like that would be counter-productive. She knows I'm thinking about her. She doesn't need to be reminded. In fact, doing so would have the opposite effect. What I need to do is get HER to be thinking about me the way I am thinking about her right now. Of course I'm open to Vag's advice, too. If any of you awesome guys have any last-minute relationship saving advice, I'm all for hearing it. I like to believe, though, that if it's meant to be, that one little snag like this in an otherwise wonderful relationship wouldn't bring things to an end. I don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me, no matter how good the memories are (obviously this is easier said than done).