So my girlfriend actually brought up 'back-door'

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  1. chlywly

    chlywly Active Member

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    I'm extremely turned on by anal, however my girlfriend is quite a bit less experienced than I, even so she's a great lover, listens and attempts to accommodate even though sometimes a bit shy. I've been kind of wanting to propose the idea of anal sex or see what she thinks about it, but have been in no rush, didn't want to pull out all the cards right away....

    She ended up asking what I thought about it/if I had tried it, this weekend while camping... I was quite surprised, she told me she had tried it once loooong ago (negative experience), however would be willing to try it with me.

    BROWNY POINTS!

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  2. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Browny points :bowrofl:

    That's awesome though! My bf isn't really into anal and one day I was like "hey, I'd be up for that you know" and he was all :eek3:

    I guess most girls don't just announce that :mamoru:

    The fact that after a bad experience she's still willing to experience it with you is a great thing :bigthumb:
     
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    My ex-gf told me one night that she was drunk enough that I could probably do whatever I wanted to her.

    Several months later she "admitted" that she had been talking about anal sex.

    "Do whatever you want," translates to "Guess what I want and do that."

    Bleh.
     
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    Totally agree, I was very pleasantly surprised and extremely turned on by this .. Mmmmmmmmmmm :cool:
     
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    :rofl: pawned by Womanese.
     
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    i knew my bf kinda wanted to try it so one day we were banging (the regular way) and i was like "you can put it in my butt". he looked like a kid on christmas morning :eek5:
     
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    I bet it made his week :rofl:
    Did he do it, did you enjoy it?
     
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    I'm sure the inability to communicate is common to both genders.
     
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    yeah that was like a year ago, we've done it several times but we don't do it all that much anymore. probably because we're in a LDR so when we're finally together we just wanna have lots of regular sex.
     
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    Communicate in different ways.......
     
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    :rofl: Somehow I just have the image of saying it that way in that moment and how hilarious it would be.

    I picture it in an almost boring way like "well you can putt it in my butt if you want :dunno:"
     
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    :rolleyes: I can find you plenty of girls who wouldn't quibble over the semantics of the word "communicate" and would simply say, wow, that is not communication, that is retarded.

    It's not a gender thing. Some people don't know how to or don't think of a non-humiliating way to express things directly.

    If you like good communication, you don't have to date men. You just have to date women who have a strong sense of self.

    Meanwhile it goes both ways. My mom's husband is extraordinarily passive-aggressive.
     
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    I'm not disagreeing with you, that still does not negate the fact that women tend to communicate differently than men, women are different in scope of desires and the ways they perceive..... This is pretty fucking elementary. Emotions tend to be the basis of female communication, when they are dealing with 'issues' or expressing their desires, especially to lovers/friends. We're talking about the very underlying structure of archetypes and gender roles, built through millions of years of social and biological (in many ways the same) evolution.

    We're not talking about simple business semantics here, so quit being a smart ass.
     
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    :rofl: Whatever you say bro. I actually got strangled on the subway yesterday evening for being the sassy young whippersnapper that I am, so maybe I am being a smart ass.

    Calling incompetent communication a different "mode" of communication is apologist semantic quibbling. If that makes me disrespectful then I'm sorry. Maybe you should just not stand by a stupid statement you made and move on.
     
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    one way or the other, men and women communicate differently. Read as far into it as you want, but at the end of the day, it is what it is. And if communication isn't right, shit wont flourish like it should, obviously.
     
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    I kinda agree. My girlfriend outright tells me that she's "horny" or wants this and that. On the other hand I know girls that bitch about their bf's not doing them enough etc. but they don't tell their bf's.....they just "hint". Than when I mention ways to be direct, I get, "that's not my style"..... picard.jpg
     
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    Right, it's generally an issue of people simply not initiating any communication, the issue i'm speaking of is when the communication that has been initiated isn't what one party is expecting or used to and that is where misunderstanding comes from. The way women speak to women and men to men is greatly different than the ways they should speak to one another.

    Anyhow, this is getting offtopic. ANALSEX
     
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    :rofl: i GUESS you can put it in my butt :rolleyes: but make it quick
     
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    So

    There's communicating differently. For example,

    <I'm going to talk because I find talking intrinsically therapeutic, please do not join the conversation except to show that you're listening.> That's supposedly the typical way a female communicates.

    <I'm going to talk because I want to solve my problems through logical parlay.> That's supposedly the typical way a male communicates.

    "Do whatever you want," meaning, "Guess what I want and do it," is the way an incompetent speaker communicates. Of either gender.
     
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    I'll be doing this for the first time most likely soon with my lover... no idea what it will be like but I'm excited
     
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    Tight Hot and Wet if you use lube.
     
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    anal is so awesome, for countless numbers of reasons.
     
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    I must be one of the only men in the world that :ugh: at anal.

    I'll take the vag over anal any day of the week.
     
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