Firstly, this probably won't come out with complete clarity so please bear with me. How the fuck do I deal with this? I've been with this girl for 3 years, it has taken us this long to realize that it simply doesn't work. For the past 2~ years we've had a very passionate but turbulent relationship. We have issues that stem from our first 6 months together, we are both quite controlling, stubborn, jealous, etc etc. We fight about everything. We will start with a small issue and it will build up until it leads to verbal and sometimes physical violence (for the record i've never done any worse than restrain her.) I am a very logical person, I know this doesn't work, I know i'm only happy for about 3% of the time we spend together, yet the idea of us being apart still breaks my heart. I wish i could get rid of my dependence on this girl. These are supposed to be the best years of my life, why am I scared to let go of this mountain of stress? How should I best prepare myself for this imminent breakup? This is the only serious relationship i've ever been in and i'm scared shitless. Writing that out helped put my situation in perspective a little bit. I would greatly appreciate any advice or insight. thanks.