so my ex is now my "lover"/open relationship

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  1. NCS

    NCS Active Member

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    sup everyone. i posted here about a month back that i got dumped with no warning signs (but i wasnt the guy who made the thread titled as such).

    it became apparent that none of the feelings left. and i dont mean the "love" feelings but also the romantic "in love" and strong attraction feelings. neither in me nor in her.

    i held out for three weeks, decided to see her to get some closure, say what was on my mind, and it turned into her crying in my arms because she misses me like crazy.

    at the same time both her and i realize that

    1) i want to live a "single" period in my life
    2) she wants to be "single" not to experience things with other guys but because she needs a lot of space to balance out her life and just live life without being tied down in a daily couple routine

    and so now we are seeing eachother with three ground rules:
    1) be honest
    2) keep some space / no living together, routine
    3) be free

    my gut feeling is in this arrangement we'd basically "date" once or twice a week. so its like casual dating, but we're in love.

    this feels like i'm playing with fire. however, i've never made such a clear and honest decision before as far as couples go and it feels very refreshing.
     
  2. Kev07

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    i did this a while back, i was really skeptical as to how it would turn out and was pretty cautious but it turned out to be the best times of our entire relationship
     
  3. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    perhaps but I'd say the vast majority of times that one person wants a break it's to fuck other people.
     
  4. macbook bro

    macbook bro Guest

    she's getting dicked down by multiple black guys

    but, cool dude
    good for you
     
  5. SovietRussia

    SovietRussia What? You pooped in the refrigerator? OT Supporter

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    i dont think this will end well...
     
  6. NCS

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    if i was on OT reading myself, i'd answer this way. all i can say for sure is right now it seems win-win. we all get what we want. i don't want to be in a relationship with anyone or go back to how things were.

    this time i am certain that was not the reason. but i know she eventually will.
     
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  7. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    succeeding at this is definitely exceptional. but so is making a lot of money. still worth attempting.
     
  8. NCS

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    i was waiting for you to chime in, man.
     
  9. Viper

    Viper OT Supporter

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    :bowrofl:

    It's amazing the things we tell ourselves to protect our egos.

    I AM ABSOLUTELY CERTAIN THAT MY SITUATION IS DIFFERENT. IT HAS TO BE CAUSE I CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH.

    :mamoru:
     
  10. NCS

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    nah. when she broke up with me i WISHED it was because of another guy because at the time, that would have made much more sense to me.

    also, its much more bruising to an ego to be dumped based on who you are/your decisions/your compatibility than the chance of her finding someone better, which is entirely out of your control.

    sorry, your theory makes no sense.
     
  11. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    It can also just be a calculated risk.
     
  12. Falconer

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    I believe you about #1.

    I don't believe you about #2.

    Just saying. You know how chicks are. :ugh2:






















    :bigthumb:
     
  13. antihero

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    Sounds awesome. You don't get an opportunity like this. Definitely give it a try and see if it works for you.

    Just keep an eye on how it makes you feel more then how you feel about her, and get out if its making your life worse instead of better.
     

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