SRS so my ex is butthurt.

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  1. the ground folds

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    So i broke up with my ex early this year because i felt overwhelmed with school and life. It wasn't about me not feeling for her or anything like that. I just felt like it was the right move for me at the time. Recently we opened communication again and it seems like the possibility of getting back together is there. The thing that just happened is that she asked me if Ive slept with anyone in the time we have been broken up and i told her the truth that i have. She ends up getting butthurt over this. Is there anything i should do at this point, or should i just let her get over it?
     
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    she probably thinks you dumbed her for another girl
     
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    well she was mad when it happened a couple nights ago. so I'm giving her a few days to have that space and calm down from it.
     
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    She's going to continue to be "mad" about it.

    She's not really mad, she's just hurt because to her, if you didn't see anything wrong with the relationship, you dumped her because you wanted to fuck around without having to worry about her feelings. And she still had/has feelings for you, so it hurts.
     
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    well she knows it wasnt right after we broke up. she knows it was this summer
     
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    Has she slept with anyone since?
     
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    she was seeing someone recently.
     
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    But did she sleep with him? lol

    If not, she's still going to be upset .. because I'll almost guaran-fucking-tee you she was passing time until she thought you came back around.

    Regardless, if she can't get over it, you won't work out. So *shrug* .. wait and see. That's part of the gamble you took by breaking up with her in the firstplace.
     
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    yeah well she pretty much admitted to me that the guy was there to pass time. Im not trying to make excuses or anything like that, just wondering if theres anything i should do at this point or just let her get over it on her own.
     
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    fwb imo
     
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    i wouldnt mind, i just need her to not be mad over this.
     
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    don't get back with her she's going to hold that over your head FOREVER
     
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    Nope...if you're interested in forming a relationship with her, let her get over it on her own.

    There's nothing you can do.
     
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    yeah thats what i figured. i was just surprised she got so mad over it
     
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    Don't be. She had hopes for you when you broke up with her that later turned into expectations of you (which, of course, she never bothered to communicate to you)... and now that you've failed to live up to these expectations, she's mad. This is a pretty common occurrence - she might not even be consciously aware that she's doing it. She probably clings to an ideal of you in her head rather than the real you. Be prepared for more little episodes like these if you do decide to start seeing her again.
     
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    She'll never get over it I'll put money on it...women never forget
     
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    well as long as she can get past it
     
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    She shouldn't be angry at you. The two of you were no longer together and so you did what you wanted to do. Of course she will be hurt but she should in no way hold that against you. Hopefully, if she's rational (unlikely :hsugh:), she can get over it, but don't ever let her guilt you in any way about it. If it upsets her that much talk it through; ie: she offered me teh buttsecks, how could i refuse?
     
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    well i havent talked to her since. i was gonna let her get over it on her own. no real reason for me to try to explain myself when shes said for the last 6 months that im not obligated to her. i think the fact that she actually knows i did now made it real to her.
     
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    Sounds like she'll get over it then. I only meant to reason with her if after a while she continues to mope over it.
     
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    yeah i understand. well if shes gonna mope about it for a while then i wont be a part of that. hopefully she can get over it on her own.
     
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    right on. I was afraid you would let her emotions overcome your rationality like a lot of the doods in here, but it looks like you've got the right idea.
     
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    ive been through enough female bs to not be irrational when it comes to them relying on their emotions for everything.
     
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    lol @ you telling her

    lol again @ thinking she wouldn't be mad

    lol x 3 @ thinking she'll get over it
     

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