LGBT So like umm....COLLEGE!

Discussion in 'Lifestyle' started by TaVeRaVe, Aug 11, 2008.

  1. TaVeRaVe

    TaVeRaVe New Member

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    Ok, so I start next week, well at least move in to my dorm. My "plan" is to generally be "out" if anyone asks, and be myself. I just don't know if this is the right way to do it. I want to be a few girls' gay best friend, which won't be too hard I'm assuming, rofl...but I want some really hardXcore party friends, too. I also thought about going in as a openly bisexual slut, so I can get action whenever I need it, and also be friends with everybody. :)

    I mean, I really want everything to go smoothly, and for me to meet a lot of people in the first few days, so I know people who I can chill with, rage with, study with, and some ppl who can buy me alcohol, etc.

    I just don't know if people will be generally accepting of me being openly gay, but not overthetopflaming. What are your guys' thoughts? :wavey:
     
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    Naturally Baked Active Member

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    People should be generally open...My RA was gay the first year and the whole floor of all guys was obsessed with him lol...
     
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    Yes to everything but THAT!

    Seriously, people talk
    And gays talk A LOT :mamoru:
     
  4. boeingair

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    i don't think you need to lie about your sexuality--if you really are bi that's fine, but that doesn't seem to be what you said before.

    college is great because in my experience people will take cues from you--as long as you are confident and accepting of yourself, other people will follow suit.
     
  5. TheMustafa

    TheMustafa hook 'em

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    You'll be fine. I don't think you need to plan this out as much as you think; everything will settle down in a few weeks once you get there.

    Just be confident and friendly, and people will surprise you.
     
  6. I'd say just be gay...there was a gay person on my floor and no one treated them any differently. We all partied together, threw shit down the stairs together (LULZ) and whatever else...he was chill.

    Don't be like super flaming gay and you'll be fine...be yourself.
     
  7. kme

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    Looking back, I would have liked to be open about it from the start.

    I just wouldn't overdo it... There was one guy freshman year that was, lets say, promiscuous... and not very considerate to his roommate. He was then known as the ``gay slut'' and kinda outcast.
     
  8. novo

    novo Pokey Man OT Supporter

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    you shouldn't worry about people your age, just the older people.
    i think kids today don't really care.

    oh, and i also used to not like the really flaming gays...but i have come to reconsider them. sometimes they're the funniest people around but that really all depends.
    you should have an open mind about other people if you're expecting them to have one about you.
     
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    Sonadoras789 New Member

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    Don't be one of "THOSE" gays that everybody hates....well straight people anyways lol
     
  10. ManyHamsters

    ManyHamsters There are necessary pursuits... but poetry, beauty

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    it's a completely fresh start, you are who you want to be!

    i'm not too sure about the super flaming thing, but just letting ppl know ur gay right off the bat is a good step, if you don't appear to be insecure about it they'll mostly just accept it

    ... worked out well for me ;)
     
  11. philvia

    philvia SUCKIN ON MY TITTIES LIKE YOU WANTIN ME CALLIN ME

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    i wondered about how to tell my roommate. we've been keeping in touch online and we move in in less than 2 weeks... i would rather him know before we move in because for some reason its always awkward when people ask me or i tell them in real life lol.

    "are you a homophobe"
    "no why"
    "cuz i gay lulz"

    thats how i imagine it going lmao ...... i'm just thinking too much about it too. :mamoru:
     
  12. TaVeRaVe

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    :rofl:
     
  13. Definitely tell him before you move in...let him know. One of my friends had a gay roommate and he didn't tell him when they had talked on the phone, IM and e-mail weeks before moving in and then told him like a week after living with him...super awkward.
     
  14. TaVeRaVe

    TaVeRaVe New Member

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    Problem

    The roommate I got assigned to said he got a different roommate, and thathhe's not even in the same dorm building as me...

    so i emailed the school and was like---WHATS UPP??? WHATS GOING ON???


    and they havent responded in two days...
     
  15. philvia

    philvia SUCKIN ON MY TITTIES LIKE YOU WANTIN ME CALLIN ME

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    ok so i messaged mine this morning :hsughno:
     
  16. Sam Gamgee

    Sam Gamgee Every tool is a weapon if you hold it right. OT Supporter

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    why are you trying so hard to define yourself and who you'll be friends with?

    Just go and be yourself and let everything else take care of itself.
     
  17. TaVeRaVe

    TaVeRaVe New Member

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    Because it's just how I like it? :dunno:
    lol
     
  18. TheMustafa

    TheMustafa hook 'em

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    I think sam's point was that you should stop worrying about this shit, and let life take you where it will
     
  19. TaVeRaVe

    TaVeRaVe New Member

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    Fuck I'm scared. I leave in the morning.
    :hs:
     
  20. camarosrool

    camarosrool yes i am

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    you'll be fine :p
     
  21. philvia

    philvia SUCKIN ON MY TITTIES LIKE YOU WANTIN ME CALLIN ME

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    :hug:
    i leave in 5 days :hs:
     
  22. LOL it's like a kid going to his first day of kindergarden.

    You'll be fine, I had a ton of fun even though it was a HUGE change...just be outgoing. :o If you post on here your first day Ill kill you.
     
  23. Diesel Freak

    Diesel Freak ♂♂ Closet Crew OT Supporter

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    You're going to have a great time. Just be yourself and let things happen. :wiggle:

    AND KEEP US UPDATED! :run:
     
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    Are you excited? You're going to have fun!
    So many OT'ers in NY it's great! :mamoru:
     
  25. philvia

    philvia SUCKIN ON MY TITTIES LIKE YOU WANTIN ME CALLIN ME

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    haha of course im excited!
     

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