So Ive been txting with this girl i met off Fish...

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  1. Redliner567

    Redliner567 Active Member

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    Sent this chick a msg on fish. She responded. Gave me her number to txt her.

    Been txting off and on for like 2-3 weeks. After about a week i threw it out there that maybe we could meet up, etc. And she said yeah sure but id like to get to know you a little better. (WTF is the site for? txt buddies?) I do understand her point though.

    I say sure and we txt bs back and forth a little more. At the end of one of our "txt sessions", I say "feel free to call sometime if u actually want to talk a little bit."

    Her: "Well ill try to call sometime this week"
    Me: lol...you dont have to. I was just throwin it out there. Only if you want to."
    Her: "Ok Ill try"

    I would call her but its kind of in her court.

    So i was sitting back thinking to myself "What in the hell are we going to talk about?"

    OT....Give me the transition from web/txt convos to actual talking convos.

    Im not a dork....im just at a loss.:o
     
  2. Amanda Ann

    Amanda Ann New Member

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    Talk about what you're going to do on xyz date when you take her out. Have a date in mind. Tell her, don't ask her.
     
  3. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    yeah, you passed the time to transition it to real life. I say under 2 weeks, or otherwise it gets really really really fucking difficult.

    one exception is if you two aren't in the same area obviously.
     
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    D7 OT Supporter

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    Hopefully she has something(s) in her profile that you can discuss? Or if she's intelligent enough :)hsugh:) she'll do the same to you :mamoru:?
     
  5. Diesel66

    Diesel66 My standards for women is like rent-a-centers stan OT Supporter

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    talking on the phone is lame. :mamoru:



    one exception is CALL HER AND SET UP A SPECIFIC DATE.
     
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    this, too.

    That's a red flag. If I've been avoiding phone conversation for two weeks and reverting to texting only, I'm not interested.
     
  7. Redliner567

    Redliner567 Active Member

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    thats what fucked me up. I didnt know if i was being weird for asking after a week or what. Brand new to online dating. I thought you meet these people to meet up in real life, not have 3 wek long txt relationships. Trying to move it along now.

    Any other suggestions to make this as seamless as possible?
     
  8. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    :roflw:
     
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    Redliner567 Active Member

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    Well if she said she will try to call and does actually call, then there is no red flag right? Can tell by profile and through texting shes pretty shy.
     
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    not everyday....prolly 5 or 6 short txt convos with her.
     
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    Sure, if she actually calls, then it might be okay. But, if she doesn't and dances around the issue - abort.
     
  12. Spaceering

    Spaceering I bite.

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    just abort now. if you are at ends on what to talk about, then it won't end nicely. there are butt loads of other girls-get to messaging boy!
     
  13. Mitchj

    Mitchj OT Supporter

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    be assertive if you want to meet this girl

    as in, make a date, tell her to come

    dont say its up to uyou let me know, say this time and date, come here.
     
  14. Redliner567

    Redliner567 Active Member

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    i kind of get that feeling too. But i figured why not. Conversation cant really be determined by a few txt msg sessions can it?

    If she calls cool, ill wing it. If not no big deal.

    But could still use info on the transition from fish/txt to phone call.
     
  15. Redliner567

    Redliner567 Active Member

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    planned on doing that. But in her eyes i did it too early. So i left the ball in her court as far as calling goes. If the convo goes well on the phone then i will be assertive as far as meeting up.

    Should it be a small group thing or one on one.
     
  16. Mitchj

    Mitchj OT Supporter

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    how are you planning on having a relationship if a phone conversation is a big deal?

    "Hi, how are you, how was your day, oh yeah ive been there blah blah blah"

    when you feel the conversation dying, have a date, ask her out. The end.

    I cant believe you are saying you left a phone conversation in her park
     
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    Redliner567 Active Member

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    I get all that. just seems so awkward. left it in her court bc i asked about a week in if she wanted to do something sometime soon and she said she would love too but wanted to get to know me better.

    So what am i suppose to do ask her a week later and look like a creeper? :ugh2:
     
  18. Spaceering

    Spaceering I bite.

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    talk about the weather:dunno:

    how was your day?

    just call and talk about whatever comes to mind, you dont have to have a convo planned just because it is online dating. treat it like everyday life, i mean isnt the goal to spend a lifetime with this potential girl?
     
  19. Mitchj

    Mitchj OT Supporter

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    id just call her personally, if shes not keen delete her number and dont call her again :dunno:
     
  20. BlazinBlazer Guy

    BlazinBlazer Guy Witness to The De-Evolution of Mankind.

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    Texting is what's lame.... just like IMing is. It should go email for introduction -> phone call (voice) to set something up -> IRL meet-up.
     
  21. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    what a waste of 3 weeks
     
  22. Mitchj

    Mitchj OT Supporter

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    i love texing people i actually know :dunno:

    you can make a joke without being dragged into a conversation
     
  23. Mitchj

    Mitchj OT Supporter

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    lol



    either way, conversation without mutual friends or activities can sometimes be hard
     
  24. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    Texting is lame...but IMing is not imo. :dunno:
     
  25. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Let me ask you this, is it that much harder for you to put the "e" in "texting?"
     

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