So Im unable to preform in bed now....

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  1. Culex

    Culex New Member

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    So this weekend Me and the GF were going to have sex (My first time having sex, not hers). We get in bed and fool around for an hour before we decide its time to have sex, but for some fucking reason I cant get a hard-on. This happened again the next night. We tried everything short of her giving me head, and it still didnt work. Now I thought It was me being nervous, but its the day after and I still cant get it up...wtf?
     
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    gkremian New Member

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    It could still be your nerves, however it could be some other kind of contributing factors in your environment. How much did you have to drink? Were you on any drugs? How stressed are you in general? If none of the answers to those questions make any sense, wait a little while. It could just be that you have some sort of erectile disfunction, which isn't uncommon.

    Don't automatically assume ED before you take into consideration other things going on in your life right now.

    Edit: I completely missed the fact that it was your first time. That's a huge, huge part too.
     
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    it's your first time, and you wonder why you can't get it up? It's all in your head...don't think about sex, don't plan on it (be prepared, but don't like set a date/time) just let it progress normally.
     
  4. Culex

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    Well It is right around finals, so I can see why Im a little stressed, but what worries me is that I cant get it up anymore at all, even if im looking at Pron...
     
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    most of the guys ive been with couldnt get hard the first time or two; it's most likely just nerves. :embd:


    finals? adderoll or ritalin?
     
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    totally your nerves.

    maybe get in a comfort zone and then get it on?
     
  7. Culex

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    Im hoping that it is my nerves (in conjunction with finals)...I havent smoked weed in more than a month, and we werent drunk. Plus I havent taken adderoll in a while, and Ive never taken ritalin.

    Thanks for the input
     
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    sometimes my friends or myself will run into a girl we feel is out of our league, which results in bad nerves, doubt in performance etc. so try not to think about it and fuck the bitch.
     
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    I also want to point out that for some guys, losing it doesn't mean much. I thought it would, then I lost it and realized I was being a total unrealistic romantic :rolleyes: I felt absolutely no difference and I was blowing it way, way out of proportion. It wasn't a big deal.
     
  10. Culex

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    I decided that if I cant get it up in the next couple days, ill probably make an apointment at the doctor, just to be on the safe side.
     
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    unnecesary imo have u tried porn in your own privacy to see if whatever u did before even works?
     
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    you're just nervous man. how long have you been seen her? if its a short amount of time maybe you have not built a comfort level w/ her which is causing you to be even more nervous.
     
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    i ahev the same fuggin problem.
     
  14. Culex

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    I tried that, and still nothing. I tried jerkin it, but that didnt help either.
     
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    busydoingnothing A broken man too tough to cry

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    The mind is the most powerful organ in your body, as you can clearly see here. It can and will definitely get in the way of pleasure, whether just masturbating or during sex. What is your thought process like? Is it something like, "I can't get it up, I'm a failure. Why can't I get it up? I really want to be hard right now. She must think I'm pathetic, etc. etc.?" Cause that's what's killing you. Take it easy. Be more comfortable with her. Does she know you're a virgin? Have you talked about it?

    If you take one piece of advice here, please let it be this: It is all in your head.
     
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    Thisis so true, and it sucks. I had a chick give me a bj for the first time and had a real hard time just getting semi soft.
     
  17. Falconer

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    Have her go down on you for a bit. Dude, even when I've had sex like 5 times in a day and I can barely get it up for time number 6, a little bit of head and he's ready to go again.
     
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    I was thinkin of tryin that, but Im not sure if she'll do it any time soon. I went down on her, and she said she would do the same to me, just not right now. Also, I think she wants me to wear a rubber if she gives me head...
     
  19. Falconer

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    :ugh:

    If it's important to you you need to establish this early on. I would not wear a rubber in order to get a chick to go down on me. Have you asked her?
     
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    I havent really talked to her about that...she just kinda said it, but im gonna ask her why. Shes really paranoid about getting preggorz though, which is probably why. But I dont think she knows the whole process...she thought I had jiz all over my wang when it was just kinda sweaty, so Im gonna have to explain it to her, then maybe shell loosen up a bit.
     
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    And this girl isn't a virgin? :rolleyes: She seems pretty... unknowledgeble of things.
     
  22. Culex

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    She kind of is. Shes only had sex twice; the first time her asshole of a BF kinda forced her, the second...she doesnt remember. So she doesn't really know what the hell is going on. According to her, shes done research on everything to catch up...
     
  23. Falconer

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    wtf?
     
  24. Gli

    Gli i can has fast duck?

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    blowjob + condom is so junior high...

    some people are just weird/uninformed...
     
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    lol who the hell does that i didnt even do that in junior high
     

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