So I'm new at sex and I suck at it.

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  1. masa

    masa New Member

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    Pretty much I'm 18 and just lost my virginity to my girlfriend.

    I've had sex four times and the maximum amount of time I last is around 2 minutes. The last time I only lasted 30 seconds and couldn't get it up again.

    Yeah I suck at sex, my girlfriend even told me that when I insert and begin, she feels that I'm not moving at all. Some background info on me would be that I masturbate on average everyday and that I'm only 5 in. erect down there. :hsd:

    Any tips on lasting longer and techniques to make her feel the "umph"? I'm a newbie and I admit it.
     
  2. nerd9

    nerd9 OT Supporter

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    practice, practice, practice, and communicate with her.
     
  3. Kytro

    Kytro I am become death, shatterer of worlds

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    Practice, mostly, but also research. Like anything new, few people are excellent right of the bat.
     
  4. Teh_Sponge

    Teh_Sponge Hey, I got a sub now...

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    best advice you'll ever get.

    anyway, about an hour before you two have sex masturbate. that way when you have sex, you'll have had enough time to "recharge" but you'll cum a lot slower.

    after you guys do it make sure to ask her what she liked and what she didn't like

    and i wouldn't worry about the size man, seriously. i'm 5 on a lucky day and i've made gf squirt many times from sex
     
  5. gixxer32

    gixxer32 New Member

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    Thats interesting, 30 seconds and you arent really pumping her much. I guess your only option is to beat off before you have sex with her until you can last longer. But yea like the others said just communicate with her and dont worry about your size
     
  6. NickS

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    Seriously, look into maybe some stimulants or Viagra or something. 30 seconds just doesn't seem "healthy" right. Maybe talk with your doctor too.
     
  7. Mullens

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    get her ontop
     
  8. gixxer32

    gixxer32 New Member

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    hehe thats true, what position were you in, also are you using a condom? and what happened before, how much foreplay
     
  9. Abomb

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    horrible advice.. all of it. ignore and follow these steps:

    1.masturbate with lube. get used to wet feeling. always use lube when whacking it. get some warming lube, ever better.

    2.masturbate 3 times a week max, and when you do masturbate, stretch it out a long time. no fast cumming, ever. start out slow go faster till you feel ready, whatever, but dont go.

    3. practice kegels daily. google it if u dont know what it is or how to do it.
    4. its a mind game, you teach yourself to cum on command, positive reinforce the fact it feels good but you arent going to cum until you are ready. practice this. aka if you allow yourself to get super excited you will cum fast.

    5. look into oral supplements such as long jack, horny goat weed, tribulus, etc. these aid in bed.

    follow all of these steps to master the art of making your girl go ooooo ohh ooooooooooooooooooo oooooooooooo........ DONT EVER STOP FUCKING ME!!!!!!!!
     
  10. katatat

    katatat you're outta your league Donnie

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    ok first masturbate a bit before you two will have sex that way like others said you'll come slower. two: communicate with her or at least read her body language. if she isnt at least telling you "no this isnt working for me or lets try this and see if this works" then it is partly her fault if it doesnt feel good to her. it isnt just a one person process. and as far as size goes it isnt how big or how small its how you use it so just get practice.
     
  11. Yail Bloor

    Yail Bloor OT Supporter

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    he blew in 30 seconds last time and then couldnt get it up again

    masturbating beforehand is not the answer

    go with what Abomb said
     
  12. katatat

    katatat you're outta your league Donnie

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    when i say "a bit" i mean like as in hours difference.
     
  13. Just be patient, if you are like normal human beings, it will take time before you get 'good' at sex. It takes practice to be great in bed.
     
  14. Abomb

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    it doesnt really take THAT much time to get good at sex.. a little research, self control, kegels, and practice and you can be way ahead of the game.
     
  15. Jimeigh

    Jimeigh Every rook and jay in the corvidae have been raven

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  16. antihero

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    this is not meant to be an insult or a sarcastic remark... you should get good at oral so you can get the job done for her. that way you have a bit less pressure while you experiment and learn.

    make sure you know EXACTLY where the clit is (if you arnt SURE you have no idea) and read some tutorials on what to do.. (teasing, etc etc)
     
  17. General Dissary

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    B4 you cum grab your dick and move your hand away from you kinda like your jerking it but the opposite movement. Be sure to squeeze the bottom of your dick when u do it as it relieves pressure and you wont cum.

    That should help you last a bit longer. Whatever you do dont use any of that warming/numbing lube to help you last longer. In my experience your just gonna burn your dick off and no ones is gonna get any. :mamoru:
     
  18. Yail Bloor

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    BREATHE

    don't be afraid to make some noise

    your breathing is very important

    in through your nose, out through your mouth
     
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    Use numbing cream or wear like 5 condoms.
     
  20. Mystery Guest

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    Hit her with the combo, if you feel your about to blow your load then pull out and go down on her for another minute, then put back in. :naughty:
     
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    Or go to the bathroom and blow your load on the toilet. Then come back and you're good for another half hour.
     
  22. katatat

    katatat you're outta your league Donnie

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    all this is good and dandy but what i said was coming from my own perspective and experiences. and how many of the people that posted in this thread have been guys opposed to how many were girls.

    i think i might have been the only girl that posted in this thread.
     
  23. fcheerleader

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    when you masturbate do you normally do it as fast as you can?
     
  24. Chip Chipperson

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    :werd::rofl::rofl:
     
  25. katatat

    katatat you're outta your league Donnie

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    well if his girl is complaining and he wants to get better at it partially for the sake of the girl wouldnt a girls' opinion count towards something.


    i do believe so.
     

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