SRS So I'm at college

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  1. CT Cubs Fan

    CT Cubs Fan New Member

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    I moved into college Wed. morning and I have been miserable ever since then. At the moment its still just the Freshmen on campus as its orientation. Here's my problem:

    1.) I have never had a single beer or been to a party. Almost the entire campus seems to be bent on that.

    2.) I haven't had a relationship with a girl fr like 4/5 years. Also making me horrifically inexpierienced with what to do with a lady. :o

    3.) Pretty much all the people here are nice. I just can't bring myself to stop being so damned nervous and talk to people. When I try I can't think of shit to say.

    This is starting to make me really depressed. I know basically no one here and thus when they do big social things on campus like a block party or something I walk around feeling nervous and awkward. Anyone go through this kinda shit?
     
  2. PuppyCat

    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Moving away and going to college can be daunting at first. Everything is new and different. There's a new type of pressure and soon there will be studies pressure. It's difficult for some people to intgrate. Everybody comes froma different background, some a different culture, all are individuals and there you are plopped right in the center of things. Unsure. Uncertain. Nervous. Tongue-tied. Alone. Cheer up, it will get better. Walk up to someone and say "Hi, my name is X and I'm from X, where are you from?" Ask questions about the college, what their major is, talk....scope out and zero on a girl that appeals to you, ask her for coffee, if she rejects you find another one. Get involved with things on campus, join something, pleadge for a frat, stop worrying. College days are meant to be some of the best times in your life. Enjoy it...after a few months or even weeks, you'll be hapening...I guarantee it. Now get out there and have some fun...you don't need to drink beer to do it... have fun. Be yourself and remember to smile. Keep us posted.
     
  3. doghumper

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    it sounds like you have social anxiety, you should go see a doctor and take a diagnosis test
     
  4. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    Naaaah, I don't detect anything that requires any professional help. It's the typical freshman jitters....perhaps it's your first experience truly living away from home as well?

    Just take it easy...remember college is for learning believe it or not. It's not the drinking or partying you should be worrying about at all....that will come with time believe me.

    With time, you'll get used to the routine, you'll start building a good friend or two, and then it will be the time of your life. Enjoy every part of it, the good and the bad. No need to rush anything.

    No need to feel the pressure of drinking.... I hardly did myself. That stuff taste like panther piss anyway, what's the point? Learn to like it? WHY?! Pfffffffft. Give me a fuckin' Pepsi and shut the hell up. :wiggle:
     
  5. AmCo

    AmCo Haters goin' Hate

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    Join some clubs, meet people in your class, in college theres a lot of different ways to meet people. You have to make a choice to over come the fear and talk to someone.
     
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    i have the same problem as you. I am trying to see what kinds of groups i can join so i can actually do something rather than just going to school. probably the main thing is to join some activitiy where you can have fun and meet new people. That way you meet other people from the people at the activities and slowly the list of people you get to know grows. hopefully i can do that
     
  7. Timdog

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    This is one thing I don't get about a lot of people around my age. They think the greatest thing in the world is to go and get totally drunk. But why? I've never tasted anything alcoholic, but the smell alone makes me want to vomit. And they forget what happened the day after. And their grades drop. And and and... :sadwavey:
     
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    1. Talk to a few people on the dorm floor and ask if there are any parties going down and see if you can tag along with them.
    2. This will change, don't stress it.
    3. Ask stuff like what their major is then ask them questions about it. For instance, I know close to nothing about what theatre majors do but a couple days ago I was talking to a theatre major and asking her if she went to any good plays lately, what plays she'll be auditioning for and etc. Be sincere and be genuinely interested.

    I'm originally from Alaska and no one there has even HEARD of my school even though it's very popular around these parts (number 1 party school in the nation, supposedly). At first I was a bit quiet and didn't really do much except work out and study. Look at it this way: no one knows who you are and you have a fresh start. It's very cathartic once you start truly understanding this :).
     
  9. dave steel

    dave steel My Kung Fu is the best.

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    Join a club on campus. Meet likeminded people. You do not need medication. That includes alcohol.
     
  11. sourcandy

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    that's the whole point of going away to college... to gain social skills. It's a crucial part of growing up.... to bad my sister never did.
     
  12. BradUF

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    After you drink about a case a beer you will like it alot more. You have to give it a chance but dont drink so much where you get sick. You cant just smell or drink a beer and say I hate it.
     
  13. ledzep73

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    Dude, the great thing about college is that there are so many different kinds of people. I had like 3 friends in highschool, and I went to a big high school. I have alot of friends in college because there are so many more people that are like you, and alot less assholes.
     
  14. civicmon

    civicmon got all my game from the streets of california.

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    first week man.. give it time.

    just don't hide in your dorm and not talk to anyone, that's the key.
     
  15. Bleed

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    college sucks for the first month. then it is amazing. enjoy college because there will never be another time like it.
     
  16. well, when you fix #1, #2 and #3 will fall into place.

    Go party.
     
  17. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    What school in CT do you go to?
     

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