so i think im falling...

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  1. Juice

    Juice New Member

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    so i think im falling... UPDATE

    in love.. i cant really explain it.. never felt like this before and dont know what to do.. i've been with this girl for over a month now, but not really dating u know, just really close friends, nothing serious going on in the whole sex thing, which i dont care about.. its the little things, her coming over after school, hanging out,staying the night just to get away, or me making breakfast in bed for her and seeing her smile, or that good night kiss at the end of the night and having her on my mind the rest of the night and the next day while im at work... its like she is always on my mind and i love it but yet hate it at the same time when she is not there..she is like my little :angel:.. so i think that i can say im falling in love with this girl.. :hs:

    i feel kinda dumb posting about something like this, but i know OT has alot of people feeling the same thing about other girls or guys.. any advice you think i should follow?



    ***UPDATE***
    a little bit long..
    ok, where to start? so me and my lady friend are hanging out all day yesterday, rented a movie, made some dinner blah blah.. then go over to a buddys house for his b-day, booze it up quite heavily, just cuz it was his bday. so me and her are having a good time, and my buddy (i'll call him G) G shows up, and G and my girly are good friends, they go outside and talk hang out for like an hour and whatnot and then he has to get back home, well she dissapears with him for like 30 minutes?? not sure where the hell she went? so she comes back, and has to be home by 12:30.. so im kinda under the impression that she was doing something w/ G.. so i text her,
    Me:- and ask wtf is going on? and that we need to figure out what "we" are.. are we together, friends, just dating or what..
    Her:-i thought we were just friends..
    Me:- just friends? wtf, i thought it was more serious? u stay the nite at my house occasionaly, hug/kiss shit all the time.. thats more than friends
    Her:- ...... im so sorry, i dont know what to say.. (she did one of these :wtc: )
    at this point i was just furious and didnt care what i said at that point
    Me:-thats it? fine.. thanx for the good times that we had.. have fun bye
    Her:- please babe dont do this, i dont want it to be this way. come over tomorrow and we will talk about it, please...
    Her:- please.. i honestly dont know what to say.. please call me
    Me:- fine.. i'll be over sometime, just call me in the morning.. bye

    so i havent talked to her and dont know wtf is going on.. i was so god damn pissed, upset, sad, and frustrated all at once.. i left my party and drove down the road and just started to :wtc:.. i really never felt so bad in my life ever. so i should probably call her and atleast talk to her... even though it hurts and im dreading what she is going to say :ugh:

    UGH!
     
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    BeatKonducta New Member

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    umm.......wait for the right moment to tell her. it may scare her off. just take your time man, baby steps into something big like this.
     
  3. Juice

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    yea i know what u mean, im not gonna go out and tell her that i love her.. those are some big words.. i went down with her last week and she signed up for the marines (family thing, mom, dad and sister are in it) and she told me today she is leaving in october...:wtc: so that kinda bumbed my day.. left work e and just went home and jammed out to some good ol' music thinkin, wondering and more thinking.. and then she came over and visited and i was all better..

    long sigh............. women..... ugh
     
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    PuppyCat O.T. Mom

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    Things go better with Love.
    Enjoy it while you can.
    ~sigh~
     
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    oh man. here goes: me and my ex started dating about 6 months before i joined the AF. we're both army brats so we know how the military is. we loved each other very much and decided to jst go with things when i left. i left in sept 03. we stayed together and got engaged apr 04. then we broke up in oct 04. we saw each other quite a bit even though she was 1200 miles away. i guess my story is that if you want to keep things going when she leaves then get ready. the first couple months will either make you or break you. so if it gets serious just get ready for the long distance thing. it can work, it's just fucking hard as hell.
     
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    Awww! Juice, your story made me smile. I love to know that people still fall in love. I hope this story has a happy ending for you!
     
  7. You're doing great never take her for granted because a good woman is hard to come by there might be times latter on down the road where you two might get a Lil tired off seeing one another all the time it's only natural, when that happens and it most likely will take a break and only kick it on the weekends give her the gift of missing you visa verse and keep doing what your doing to keep her attracted to you because woman loose interest in men real fast.

    And be real careful not to say the L word to Early in the relationship unless you know for sure that she feels the same way as you do.
     
  8. Juice

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    damn! thats kick ass that you guys were able to still be togeher like that, being so far away..i hear what ur saying.. maybe we can sit down and talk a little about us and go from there.. just kinda blows knowing that in october she has to say :wavey: for 12 weeks and then can get shipped who knows where in the world? :wtc:
     
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    thanx!! so i'll update some more down the road when we figure out wtf is going one :wiggle:
     
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    What a sweet story. I wish all the best to both of you, and remember, if it's meant to be, love will prevail over anything.
     
  11. Juice

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    ^ thanx for the kind repsone (damn i feel like a homo for that.. LOL) u know what i mean
     
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    don't feel like a homo for expressing your feelings man. and the saying is very true "if it was meant to be, then it will happen." i'm just saying be damn ready if you guys decide to continue when she leaves. it will be a highly difficult road that you will be traveling. but it can be done. it will be quite the learning experience. and there are times when you will want to give up, trust me, i know. but just remember that you will have something great in the end if you guys keep things up.
     
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    jackjohnson simple as something nobody knows OT Supporter

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    wait, how does she feel about you? is it just platonic, if so run for your life
     
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    good luck. long distance can work, i did it for 2 years. just have to trust, and keep open lines of communication.

    enjoy your time together
     
  15. Juice

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    yea i hear ya.. im just taking it a step at a time.. like baby steps (What about Bob?-great movie) :bowdown:
     
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    Sounds like the boat I am in, only we are dating. Will be a month on friday, seems a little fast, and normally I would have been a little scared, but everything about this girl was different, but I decided to keep my mouth shut for the time being and low an behold, she expressed to me her feelings which were exactly how I felt. Everything has been falling into place perfectly since then. I've never felt the way I do now, about any girl I've been with, it's crazy. :) We haven't had sex yet, so I know for sure thats not why we have "feelings" for eachother.
    We both feel like virgins again around eachother....sounds corny, but its true :o
     
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    I love that movie! :cool:
     
  18. Juice

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    i feel the same way man.. its so awesome, almost undescribeable.. so she came over today, hung out with me all day, chilled, watched a few movies, ordered a pizza.. then we started talking about bicycles for some random reason, so we went out and went on a bike ride around my neighborhood. which was pretty cool, 8 oclock at nite, probably 70-75 degrees outside, soooo nice.. one of the more random things i have done lately, but it was still fun, just spending time together..:hsd:
     
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    Yea, we randomly go on walks or something, or to the park and stuff....lil crazy, I've never done that before with any other girl I went out with lol :o
     
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    :) Good for you, life is so much better when you are in love. Maybe its just me, but the sun shines a little brighter and the air smells a whole lot sweeter

    Anyways, take it slow and easy. I wish you the best and I hope you have an endless wealth of patience and trust. LDR'S can and DO work, you just need lots of both to make it happen.

    Keep us updated and good luck!
     
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    Update at the top.. ^
     
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    WeRdToYoMoThA Girlies on Standby, Waiting to say Hi

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    :hug:

    sorry things didnt work out
     
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    damn dude. sorry man...
    i know it seems cliche' for me to say this. but you seem like a good guy. if she's going to give you up over some stupid fling with another guy then she's not worth it. it's her damn loss, ya know? if you find out that did in fact do something with that guy i would drop her. i know that it's easier said than done, but better now than when it gets more serious and hurts a hell of a lot more.
     
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    I'm just glad to hear that guys still have feelings.
     
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    i hear u... so wanna hear the most fucked up thing? so last nite i took off, didnt call or talk to anybody.. well this morning i get a call from garrett (the guy from last nite) some friends were gonna go 4wheelin and wanted me to go.. so of course i went, cuz i love it.. so garrett is rididing with me.. about half way into our adventure, and about 4-5 beers later,
    he says "so if i tell u something will u hold it against me?"
    me-" uhhh depends what is it??"
    him- so i ugh kinda got with tabitha last nite..
    me- :dunno: what to say? im fucking stunned about what i just heard..
    him- dude dont get all bumbed, and he tried to give me a cheers with our beer..
    me- dude dont fucking talk to me the rest of the way home..
    him- what?
    me-ya im fucking serious, dont talk to me, or i will leave u out here
    (might i add we about 40 miles from civilization..)

    so for the next 2 hours he didnt say a fucking word to me until i brought him back to his ride. i honestly am at a loss for words and cant believe what happened.. all of my friends, i mean everybody knew that i had feelings for her, cared for, did this did that for her and they all knew it.. then one of my good friends comes along and fucks it all up.... man, i went 4wheelin to get out in the open, drink some beer and drive over big ass rocks to get my mind off of this shit, then half way thru the trip my friend has to go and say this shit... way to ruin a fucking good day..

    ugh, sorry OT,im so fucking pissed off at everybody, espically him and then at her too.. she doesnt even have the fucking common courtesy to tell me to my face.. i have to find out from the guy :o

    so i guess its time to say :sadwavey: even though it hurts so bad.. :wtc:

    i think im going to go drown my sorrows in a 6 pack or a 12'er..

    :sad2:
     

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