SRS so i need some help... *semi read**

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  1. redd

    redd New Member

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    so ive like this girl for a while... we've hung out just about everyday for the past 7-8 months.... there were a few occasion where it seems like she's interested too... so i really want to tell her how i feel... but i just found she sees me as a good "friend"... she told another friend that "if i had a friend tell me he likes me, i think i would distance myself from him" so now im really affraid to tell her how i feel because i guess if i cant be with her i would still like to be her friend because she's really fun to hang out with....


    O.T. what should i do...

    1. continue to be the "nice guy" and try to win her over
    2. just be her friend
    3. tell her and take a chance of losing her friendship
    :crying:
     
  2. BBQ Monster

    BBQ Monster New Member

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    Chances are she already knows you like her. She probably told her friend that, because she knew you would find out. I think you should let things play out. Sometimes good things comes to those who wait.
     
  3. Showtime_III

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    "we've hung out just about everyday for the past 7-8 months" = Mistake

    "so i really want to tell her how i feel"= ahaaa

    "continue to be the "nice guy"" = get use to your friendship because this is where you are and always will be (with her)

    dude you fukked yourself with her. find someone else
     
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    PaZzEsCo New Member

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    I agree with BBQ!!
     
  5. Bleed

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    3....stop being a pushover and letting her dictate how you live your life. tell her how you feel and if she isn't into you, then move on. it's not worth torturing yourself hanging out daily with a girl that doesnt see you in that way anyway.
     
  6. Toasty

    Toasty Naked people have little or no influence on societ

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    I'm with Bleed. Just go tell her...

    At worse you risk losing a friendship...but is that really friendship then if she distances herself from you when all you're guilty of is liking her?

    The punishment of her dismissing you (as you're already expecting anyway) is better then the constant torture of guessing whether she's interested in you or not day after day. Not to mention the torture of having to be the friend she needs to talk to about her guy problems.

    Some might say "wait"...but I've waited before in a situation like this and all I got was regret.
     
  7. Ameter

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    dude, been there, done that exact thing... tell her, ask her if she want's more, but, my money's on, you're stuck in friendsville.

    Why buy the cow if you get the milk for free? It's the same with women, except with the niceness.... if you've given her everything without her needing to be with you, odds are,she wont want to be with you..

    Nice guys finish last, sad, but true.
     
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    :werd:
     
  9. redd

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    thanks for the input guys....
     
  10. Ameter

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    sorry I couldn't tell you what you want to hear. Life sucks a hard one. At least we're here for ya

    at least tell her/ask her out though. For all we know, she may be a rare woman who genuinely appreciates and is attracted to nice guys.

    and you'll always regret not asking if you dont
     
  11. Bleed

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    you'll feel a lot better when you tell her too. :)
     
  12. johan

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    You must tell her. It's obviously killing you to not do so.
    You already know how she will react. Admit it. You know she doesn't feel the same way.

    She already knows how you feel about her. Admit that too. Come on. You two have been together EVERY DAY for 7 - 8 months? How can she not know?

    She knows.
    And so do you.

    Still, to prove it to yourself, you must take that next step. Who knows, there is a small chance she's been really shy. Your message did not contain enough info about her personality to be able to say 100%.

    So go for it.

    And good luck.
     

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