so i feel like giving this break up speech

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  1. NCS

    NCS Active Member

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    "i want to see other people... its not that i don't want to see you, we can still see eachother, i just want to see other people too"

    while this is exactly how i feel i am hesitant about just doing some blueprinted normal break up speech a la "we have to stop seeing eachother" or "you're not the one"

    should i say exactly what i think or try and make it as painless as possible?
     
  2. zatotheck

    zatotheck New Member

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    I wouldn't straight out say that you want to see other people. Instead suggest it and see how shes plays along. Play the situation by ear.
     
  3. Drifter87

    Drifter87 Yippi-kay-ay, Motherfucker

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    If it is a breakup, just say...

    "Everyone with a boyfriend raise their hand... whoa not so fast their Missy".
     
  4. sorryforya

    sorryforya New Member

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    "Its not working out" Can't get simpler than that.
     
  5. 04JETTA

    04JETTA OT Supporter

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    :werd: my friend was saying this when I asked him about him and his SO and he gave the same response I was like :nono:
     
  6. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Wait what.

    You don't want to be with her in a relationship but you still want the sex

    Yeah, that ain't going to work to well.
     
  7. giz

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    :rofl: probably not, but I guess it's worth a try if that is what he is interested in
     
  8. Ideotique

    Ideotique Drinking on monday nights does not make me an alco

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    Some people find a slap in the face interesting and exciting I guess :dunno:

    Note from personal experience though. It ain't worth it. It simply ain't worth it. Far too much drama and heartbreak
     
  9. Vysion

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    :werd: It all depends on how long the TS has been seeing this woman. It's fine to not want a commited relationship and continue to see a woman, but make sure you're honest with them and they are clear on the terms. Let her decide if she can handle you seeing other women or not.

    Also, like Alaya said, you should rephrase how you say it.
     
  10. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    From what my awesome memory serves me he partially broke up with his long term ex for this girl. He jumped straight into a serious relationship with this girl and now, around 7 months later, the rose-colored glasses have come off and he no longer see's a long term relationship with her. He likes her, which is why he would not be opposed to fucking her without attachments, but he's not in love with her so he wants other women. Also probably wants her around because like before, he's afraid of actually being alone.
     
  11. Vysion

    Vysion New Member

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    You do have an awesome memory... :wiggle:
     
  12. NCS

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    no it wont work well. i just realized that i'm in an OK place with her, and its fun, but i want to go see other people.

    for a while i thought things were great, then they went a bit sour, now im feeling over it.

    however i dont want to kick her to the curb either, i should be honest and say its not about not wanting to spend time with her.

    so yes, it sounds douchey but its the troof
     
  13. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Might as well say "it's not you, it's me" while you're at it. Oh and use the "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" line. That's always a good one.
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Yeah, it is "douchey". If you string her along like that you're being selfish and using her. Be a man and just break up with her and move on.
     
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    I never got how people could use that line... what else do you do with cake, if not eat it? :confused:
     
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    If you eat the cake you no longer have it
     
  17. NCS

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    it started off well with her, but we aren't as compatible as i thought, and i dont want as serious a relationship anymore. thats what it comes down to. it was bad relationship management on my part to get into things too quickly.

    aside from my previous fiasco, i have never left one person for another , i honesetly don't think i have a fear of being alone, its more like "why not just get the sex and have fun from time to time anyway"
     
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    i dont think he should rephrase it at all. i think he should tell her exactly that. then she can see what he really intends to do and make her choice based on the truth, not the semi truth he creates to break up with her and ask to remain fuck buddies nicely.

    who knows, maybe she will be cool with it. its better than she has no uncertainty about what he is looking for and can make her decision based on the truth
     
  19. PleaseEatSomeShit

    PleaseEatSomeShit 1-900-RAT-FUCK

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    Give her a bandage. "You're cut"
     
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    +(ll.ll)+ New Member

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    Just use the universal break-up line - "It's not you, it's me" - then walk away (or bang her for the last time first and then walk away).
     
  21. Vysion

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    Oh if you have been seeing this girl for a while now, good luck with telling her you don't want a serious relationship but that you still want to continue seeing her. That typically only works with a girl after the first few dates. 7 months into it and you're almost relationship status. She's going to take it as you're breaking up with her.
     
  22. Alaya

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    her memory scares me sometimes :rofl::eek3:
     
  23. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    It should. I remember incriminating shit you said 2 years ago :squint: :mamoru:
     
  24. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Cheat on her.

    Its really that simple.
     
  25. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Seriously, I know you are trolling but it's getting old. Cut the shit.
     

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