So I essentially cut ties with one of my closer friends today, because:

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  1. Nuhlinga

    Nuhlinga Whaa gwaaan papcaann?

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    1. I have feelings for her, and she doesnt feel the same way and it's making me miserable. I think not having her in my life would do me some good.

    2. The vibe I have gotten from her over the past 2 years is that I'm not worth her time anymore. Probably because of 1.
    Although up to then we were pretty much best friends (I know, i know. 2 years ago I never knew what the friendzone was, and thought it would be the right way to win her over. Stupid :o )

    so, deleted her number, her BBM contact, MSN, and limited her Facebook profile so I cant see any updates (although I think i'll have to delete her if I cant stop myself from checking up on her)

    kinda sucks but I think it's for the better.

    just rantin' here:sadwavey:
     
  2. Falconer

    Falconer OT Supporter

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    Good.

    Most because of #2.

    Of course having feelings for a chick who only wants to be friends is shitty, too. Nothing good will come of it.
     
  3. themolsen

    themolsen New Member

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    that sucks man, but you probably did the right thing. above all, you have to look out for yourself and that's what you did.
     
  4. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Good for you, man. I know it sucks, but it sucks way less than the alternative.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    Good for you.
     
  6. GammaRadiation

    GammaRadiation Active Member

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    If she was a real friend you can pick up where you left off weeks/months/years later.

    If not, it's still obviously the best decision.
     
  7. Nuhlinga

    Nuhlinga Whaa gwaaan papcaann?

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    Aint that the truth.
    only problem I have is this. Jamaica is pretty small, Kingston is even smaller, we both are active in racing here which is a smaller community still. I'm GOING to end up seeing her soon and i dont want to.

    fucking thing sucks.
     
  8. Nuhlinga

    Nuhlinga Whaa gwaaan papcaann?

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    so I did the right thing. That's a relief.
     
  9. GammaRadiation

    GammaRadiation Active Member

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    You dont have to shun her, and if she mentions it just tell her you've busy and doing your own thing. If she confronts you about it, dont dick around. Tell her something along the lines of "I was starting to develop feelings for you, you weren't reciprocating, so I decided to give my self some space so I have one less hassle on my mind." Keeping your reasoning simple and concise.
     
  10. Falconer

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    It could be worse. You could've been bf/gf and super in love with her and she just dumped you and you have to see her every day.

    Just be polite if you see her, but don't go out of your way to talk to her.

    edit - and do what CBFryman said if she asks you about it.

    Chances are she won't even care if you were really that unimportant to her.

    Or, you not wanting anything to do with her will make her want to fuck you to validate herself. It happens. If this happens, don't fall in love or LTR her because she's demonstrating emotional instability and will cheat on you with the next guy who ignores her.
     
  11. Nuhlinga

    Nuhlinga Whaa gwaaan papcaann?

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    I like that.

    little tidbit on her:
    she only dates older guys - told me herself when i first told her I had feelings for her:coolugh: when i met her she was dating a 32 year old. she was 19. according to her, 'age is just a number' yet she has a problem with dating guys her age:hsugh: she's 2 months older than me btw.
    all her past bf's were older than her and werent exactly poor either.
    ah well.
     
  12. GammaRadiation

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    Trainwreck, run in the other direction.
     
  13. themolsen

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    run run run
     
  14. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :bowdown:

    Seriously RUN.
     
  15. Falconer

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    In case you missed those, run.

    dude you don't even realize how big of a favor you just did yourself.

    make yourself a drink and have a nice :wackit: session or something and then take yourself to the store and buy yourself something nice as a reward.

    It's like you just saved yourself from infinite headache.
     
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  16. Bob Brown

    Bob Brown bewshit, bewshit, bewshit

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    Good for you. For once I am proud to enter a "this is what I did" thread and be proud.

    It's for the best.
     
  17. Nuhlinga

    Nuhlinga Whaa gwaaan papcaann?

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    wow :eek3:
    always wondered why someone would say that though. Is it something to do with daddy issues? (her family is a little bit fucked, mother lives in the states and she lives here with her dad) :dunno:
    i mean, ALL her friends are older too come to think of it (albeit by like 2 or 3 years). I think i was the only person close to her who was her age :ugh:
     
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    God job

    You'll feel better with more time.
     
  19. GammaRadiation

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    Daddy issues
    Inferiority complex
    Superiority complex
    *.AboveAverageIrrationalFemaleThought

    "I only date older men" and "Age is just a number" are two contradicting thoughts spewed by the same individual. Asside being irrational, do you really want to date someone with such qualifiers?
     
  20. Falconer

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    :werd:

    OCCASIONALLY women will date older guys because "older men are more mature" (which is sometimes true... sometimes...) however that assumes that the woman in question is also mature :rofl:

    The majority of the time, women who prefer older men are damaged goods. The reason doesn't matter.

    Even if they're not damaged goods, if you're not older then you're not what they're fundamentally attracted to and it will be short lived.
     
  21. Nuhlinga

    Nuhlinga Whaa gwaaan papcaann?

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    2 years ago I did:o
    and you're so right, because she does have a problem with authority at times.
     
  22. Midgetized

    Midgetized Don't mess with Douche Cat

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    Those women date men who are a few years older, not ones old enough to be her daddy.

    The ones who are fucked in the head do things like this girl, date 32 year olds when they are 19 or date guys in their late 20s when they are in high school.
     
  23. Falconer

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    Are you seeing the benefit in your decision to stop talking to her?

    SOunds like my pyscho ex. She got pulled over going 45 in a 25 and then called the cop an asshole for giving her a ticket. Stop breaking the law, bitch.

    It was double funny to me because she usually dated cops/military guys anyway (again, why was she with me?????).
     
  24. Falconer

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    I'm very happy to have you (a female) agreeing with me.

    I get yelled at from women most of the time when I say things like that (usually it's by women with daddy issues who are taking offense at what I'm saying) :bowrofl:
     
  25. Nuhlinga

    Nuhlinga Whaa gwaaan papcaann?

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    i'm bookmarking this page for future reading if i ever start to feel down over her to remind me why i cut her off in the first place :bowdown:
     

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