I've never felt so upset and empty in my life. This girl was a huge part of my life and things are so different now without her. I'm really just writing to vent... thanks for reading. Cliffs on our relationship: The first year was great, we were always happy and excited to see eachother. Everything was so new and spontaneous. The second year i started to feel smothered, and controlled. She would get pissed off over stupid (IMO) things and i would feel manipulated by her. To avoid confrontation i began to tell lies to keep things running smoothly. Tension built further in the latter months, often we would only have an enjoyable time together maybe 1 night a week (out of 4+ nights total). This break up was long overdue. I still care tremendously for her. I love her even now but this relationship was the root of much of my unhappiness and it had to go. I plan on not speaking with her for quite a few months then playing it by ear. It wouldn't surprise me if we ended up together again, we are so in love but we're both at very different stages in our lives. Right now we want very different things and I simply can't give her the attention she needs. I'm crushed but i know this had to be done. How do people get over losing something this huge? I would talk with this girl for hours every day, i would see her almost every day. We shared everything... now she's just gone. I've lost a huge part of me. Share your long term relationship break up stories, why did things end and how long did it effect you?