Alright where do i begin... 3 years ago i met this chick that was very good to me, she treated me right, she gave me my space when needed and sexually she was ok (not great... ok) She had a personal life with friends at the time which was great. now fast forward 2 years in the future, we now own a house (well technically i own it alone, but she lives with me and pays about 35% of all monthly bills) She has lost track of all her friends, so she basically depends on me for everything. Very clingny and annoying if you ask me... At that point i get a promotion at work, which forces me to travel and be away long periods of time, my responsabilities change drastically and i am placed in a position where i make alot of high pressure decisions. When i am home, my Girlfriend is acting submissive alot, she puts me in a position where i make all the decisions at home. Sexually, i get pissed off at her because she cannot satisfy me on her own will and i have to tell her what to do... and since she's uncomfortable with certain things (like blow jobs) she makes a huge fuss when i tell her to provide me with that... Go forward to 2.5 years. i haven't touched her for 5 months, i stopped loving her, i stopped telling her i loved her, basically.. she becomes a roomate. she tries to give me affection because she loves me and i am her whole world... but i don't care so i push her back... We had a discussion that i needed to have my space and we need a break. i need to put things into perspective. after about 2 weeks of discussions, we agree that we could, if we wanted to, see other people during this break. (we still live together because of the house and such... we get along good as roomates, so we see no need to part ways) So 3 months ago, i run into this girl, at first, to be honest, i wanted to get laid... it had been 8 months without sex (my libido prior to being with my ex was insane.. i could have sex every day, 4-5 times a day with the proper partner) so i start flirting with her and she's giving me a hard time, basically she's playfully testing me, her personality is a dominant one, to me that was a huge turn on... so i stepped back and acted more submissive (not to an extreme.. but enough to let her run the show) I notice that this new girl is strong willed, determined to suceed in life, intelligent, doesn't deal with crap.. and very very very open minded (but that's another post for Freakyshit forums ) so we finally spend a night together... 9 condoms later... she can barely walk that morning, best night of sex in my whole life... this girl was simply beyond amazing. Over the course of the last 3 months, started to spend alot of time with her, MSN, Phone, Real life.. i recently had to go to Phoenix on a business trip and didnt see her for 3 weeks, so when i came back, well let's just say we raped eachother again for 2 days... over the last week, she admited being in love with me, she told me that even tho she has a very dominant personality, for the first time in her life, she feels that she can give herself to me and let me control her, so thats new for her... and i've basically came to the same conclusion, that i can give myself to her and let her lead the way... our roles are interchangeable.. that is a huge huge turn on sexually and mentally for me and her. I've since then told her that i loved her... too soon? maybe... but i've been thinking of her non stop for 3 months... and she pretty much told me the same thing. The only *ONLY* thing i wasnt completly honest with this new girl about, is that my ex still lives in my house 2 to 3 nights a week (we live in different bedrooms.. and i swear to god i havent touched her or told her anything relationship like in 5 months) My main concern is that when i met this new girl, she was so strong willed that if i would have said, my ex lives with me every so often, she would have walked away. now that its getting more serious with me and her... well im hoping that if i have to tell her.. she'll understand... last night i went out with friends, and a good female friend of mine pretty much looked at me and told me i looked in love and it had been a long while since i looked this happy... that really got to me... i came home at 2:30 am... woke up my ex, and told her it was completly over.. and she needed to leave soon. (im not gonna make her homeless.. but i dont want her here for 3 months you know) she cried a bit (i know she wanted us to get back together.. but i just have no feelings for her at all, other than frustration) and then i brought her to her parent's place.. she'll stay there for a bit and slowly move her shit out. Now i've realised a while ago, that by doing this, i am risking my financial future.. i could lose my house, my car.. everything i've worked hard for... while i can Practically pay for it alone, im short about 500$ a month... i'll try to rent a room or something... I don't thing i've done anything wrong... my ex knew we took a break, she knew we could see other people. My new GF was told that my last relationship ended 5 months ago. and i've been 100% true to her. This being the Asylum, i'm hoping people can comment and tell me what they think from their perspective. now because this is OT, i'd normally offer pics of old and new GF, but i'll skip that for now just because the last thing i need is for the new GF to read this and A)Flip out about me not telling her my ex lived here up B) i posted her pic without her permission. so pls no request for pics. Thanks OT for any help and advice =) Oh btw, in case anyone asks. i'm 24 yo. Ex GF was 24 aswell, New GF is 20 YO.