I met this girl and we hit it off instantly, hooked up that night. I told her I wanted to take is slow, but she kept calling me everyday. This is in a small ski resort town so it's not like she had a lot of other people to hang out with. I saw her pretty much every day for the next 2 months, spending the night with her most of the time. My lease was up at the end of the next month and I was having trouble finding a place to live, she said I could move in with her (it would help out with her $900 a month rent). She was really into me, and I was scared at how quickly things were moving. I became distant. She got closer to me. She was making me dinner, buying me gifts, etc., and I wasn't doing a whole lot in return. Then I got really drunk the night before a big day and slept in, she called me very anrgy and in my incorherent state I just didn't really care, and I didn't bother calling her all day (I slept all day). So the next she says it's over, I apolozige and get emotional, I wasn't crying but I got shaky and welled up. She says OK we'll just take a break. Then I left flowers at her house before she got home that night. Then I called her a couple of times over the next few days, saying things like "I really like you" "I didn't know what I had until it was gone", "I was a complete asshole", etc. Thanks, but I still think we should take a break she said. I ended up hanging out with her just as friends but with other people a couple times soon after that, which was awkward but seemed to go well (I got charm). Finally I couldn't take it anymore and I demanded an answer from her, are we seeing other people or not? And she said well I still care about you but... (pause). And I said, spare my feelings - you're not attracted to me anymore? She said yes. And so we ended it. But we both agreed to still be friends. So it's been a month and we talk every now and then, maybe once a week for 15 minutes or so. What I would like to know is: Was it a complete mistake to get emotional, buy her flowers, and call her saying things like "I really like you" etc.? What is the best way to handle a situation like that? How can I tell if she still has feelings for me? She still calls me, but maybe she just feels 'bad' because I was so hurt by the whole thing. What should I do, or not do, to increase my chances of getting back together with her in the future? I ended up moving back to my home town for unrelated reasons, which she happens to be from as well (coincedence). She will be living there for another year to finish up school and then moving back here. She will be visting here (family) frequently in the mean time. I will probably be visting there (to ski) as well. Thanks to anyone who has the patience to read this.