SRS So, I am thinking about popping the Q.

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  1. TwistedMind

    TwistedMind New Member

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    Anyways, this sound lame but i'm gunna ask ya'lls opinion anyways.

    Is it lame to present a engagment ring that isn't diamond?

    I really have no idea. I know she dosn't really care one way or the other for diamonds. Her favorite color is baby blue, so I went and found a baby blue sapphire.

    Is she going to think i'm retarded if I buy this stone, have it set and ask her to marry me with it?


    Nevar done this sort of thing before halp.

    P.S. I am a poor college student, 3000 dollar diamond rings are out of my budget, please bear that in mind.
     
  2. Chitty Chitty Gang Bang

    Chitty Chitty Gang Bang OTCC

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    Her favorite color > Traditional Diamonds.

    You took what you believed to be more meaningful to her. Smart move. :)
     
  3. jones21

    jones21 Uranium Member

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    hire a detective to follow her for a couple days just to make sure you're not making a mistake. worry about the ring after that situations all rosey
     
  4. TwistedMind

    TwistedMind New Member

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    I trust her period. moving on.
     
  5. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    If you know her and know she has no attachment to diamonds then getting a ring that is blue, due to her liking blue, is a very very smart move.

    it's about the meaning and the thought, not the amount (unless she is the wrong woman and then she cares about the look or cost of it)
     
  6. TwistedMind

    TwistedMind New Member

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    Nah she dosn't care about cost.

    I bought her a really nice want for christmas and shes wore it twice. She prefers her velcro wal mart 5 dollar watch lol.

    I'm more concerned with bad form or looking like a tard.

    Anyways ill just do my thing and go with the flow. thanks have a awsome day.
     
  7. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Who gives a shit what other people think :) The ring represents your commitment to marry her. What it is made of is irrelevant.
    My step mothers engagement ring is a huge sapphire :)
     
  8. sportsjunkie

    sportsjunkie OT Supporter

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    i think it's a nice idea. especially if that's what she likes :)
    go for it
     
  9. Deepsouthwrx

    Deepsouthwrx If in doubt, flat out!

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    Get a friend of hers to find out what kind of ring she would like, quietly.
     
  10. lick wid nit wit

    lick wid nit wit Official OT Oracle

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    IAWTC.

    Also, if I were getting a ring, much as I like diamonds, I'd be cool with a cubic zirconia. I don't see a reason to blow huge money on a diamond when a CZ looks just as good.
     
  11. johan

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    So...does she want a diamond? Blue may be her favorite color and all, but some gals are pretty particular about how they imagined their details.

    If she wants a diamond...great... I wouldn't get her something you assumed she wanted.



    And...personally, I would NOT get this information via a friend. Christ, that's for shy, overly frustrated highschoolers.

    You and her can have a nice, subtle, yet honest talk about what she likes.

    Take her shopping...wander past a jewelry store. If you must...start off with the men's watches and then drift past the rings.

    This looks nice. No? This looks really nice. No? Hmmmm.
    You'll get an excellent idea after 30 minutes of this.

    I personally like princess cut, but my girl doesn't....and now I know. ;)
     
  12. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    I still think an engagement ring should be a representation of the man's love for his woman. It should be something HE chooses.
    I don't think she should choose the ring.
    If she doesn't like it, she is a fussy selfish mole
     
  13. no lol today

    no lol today Soy la bailarina de la muerta. OT Supporter

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    Non-diamond rings that suit your girls personal preference are bound to be appreciated.

    I hate clear, boring diamonds. They're overrated. I ended up with a black diamond w/2 of my birth stones flanking. Extremely happy.

    She'll probably love that you put thoughts about her into your choice. Not to mention that on a tight budget you can score a bigger stone by seeking a diamond alternative.

    Here's a resource identifying additional stones in the light blue color:
    http://www.gemselect.com/group/group.php?group=gems&color=^blue^

    Here's a link to a site I like (Where I got my engagement/wedding set.):
    http://www.custom-engagement-rings.com/index-old.html

    Good luck popping the Q!
     
  14. Crawling Dead

    Crawling Dead Gz-TeRRoR

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    But really. Lets be real here. Its the woman who has to wear the ring the guy picks out. And women have this huge fantasy about the moment they get engaged and getting married as this huge fairy tale come true. Im generalizing of course, but thats only because I dont the TS's gf

    I agree with the shopping idea. Totally discreet and you can find out exactly what the hell she wants.
     
  15. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    just a suggestion if you are that worried.

    first of all you dont have to spend 3k on a diamond ring. you can get a decent one for around 2k (not sure if that e. in budget).

    you could also get a diamond w. her fav colored stone on each side.
     
  16. sportsjunkie

    sportsjunkie OT Supporter

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    she's the one who's gotta wear it, so she should have some input in it
     
  17. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    And I believe the focus should be on the marriage and the commitment made. Not the ring, not the dress, not the wedding, etc etc etc
    A woman should be happy with what her man gets for her - and if he totally fails, then maybe it is a sign you guys shouldn't get married because he doesn't know you well enough?
     
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    Crawling Dead Gz-TeRRoR

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    To an extent. Gotta factor in the fact that most guys fail at everything dealing with women the first time through. So unless this is just practice for the real woman he wants to marry someday, he's prolly gonna fuck it up and not get what she really wants.

    Also, not every woman thinks like you. A lot of them want this great perfect memory of their marriage, I mean to an extent everyone wants a good wedding, but I could see a woman saying no because she doesnt like the ring her man got her. Personally, if that shit happened to me, I'd have enough foresight to say good bye to the bitch and tell her to buy her own fucking ring. But I'm not really hoping for a failed attempt here with this guy.

    Safe > sorry
     
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    GregFarz78 New Member

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    Its not lame to get a different stone other than a diamond but its not smart to get engaged in college IMO
     
  20. TwistedMind

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    IM 28, second career for me, midlife crisis all that jazz.
     
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    Lindsay Loham New Member

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    Just today my bf said to me he wants me to start showing him engagement rings that I like, so he can get an idea of what I want so whenever that time may come, he will have a great idea of what to get me.
     
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    I see I was thinking you were a 19 year old college student :mamoru: Take her ring shopping with you and give her a budget to work with, shoot a little lower than you want to spend then end up buying her that ring that was a little bit out of your budget she'll love that shit :bigthumb: I did this for my wife b/c I'm a man that has no idea or no interest in learning about jewelry.

    Nothing wrong with a sapphire engagement ring you can get tiny diamonds added on the side to give it a little more pop and it won't cost much more.
     
  23. MissKitty

    MissKitty If squats were easy they'd be called 'Your Mum' OT Supporter

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    Maybe I am just old fashioned and one of only a few women left who want nothing to do with choosing the ring and don't even want to know it is happening :o
    Going shopping for it is so "Soo, get ready for a surprise" :o
     
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    Whatever you go for, make sure it's a classic design - something she'll be able to look at and admire 60+ years down the road. She'll be wearing it pretty much every day for the rest of her life. Is she the type to match her jewelry to her outfit, or is she a traditionalist when it comes to weddings? If so, a colored stone may not be such a great idea. Generally, though, it doesn't specifically have to be a diamond. I've heard of people doing pearls.

    It's a quarter life crisis unless you plan on dying by about 50! :eek3:
     
  25. Xavier

    Xavier There's nothing like a trail of blood to find your

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    My SO doesn't want a diamond. I don't see what's wrong with getting her something other than that. =P
     

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