So how many of you in relationships actually are "in love" with your SO?

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  1. tubachris85x

    tubachris85x New Member

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    Why I bring this up, is because from my perspective, many people Ive met that are in relationships, do not really "love" each other. I can understand not wanting to get attached or anything like that, and see why some couples arent. Only the truly serious couples usually are the ones that are attached.

    Its kind of funny though, its my first LTR, same with my GF, but for some reason, she dosnt understand this at all. (for the record, I can say that I am in love with my SO, wasnt an overnight thing, took almost a year before it really hit me). For example, she says "why dont they say 'i love you' to each other?" I explain it, but I dunno why she dosnt understand it. Oh well
     
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    People are affraid of love, and rightfully so. It hurts, it comes out of nowhere and hits you in the face like a brick. When you're in love you'll do ANYTHING, you'll be stupid..
     
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    Yeah, if you were to know you were in love, then you'd do anything for that person. And this can be a scary thing for a lot of people.
     
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    I am. I don't really see the point of a serious relationship if you aren't.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I have many "significant others" in the literal sense because it's a retarded phrase.

    I'm also in love with one of them :big grin:
     
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    tubachris85x New Member

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    Well one thing I can add as a fact about love, is that it can be one of the greatest things in the world, but at the same time, be one of the most painful things as well
     
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    Phantom Empress mmmmmm tasty!!!

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    i fall in love with him again every day. I know that's cheezy, but it's true. after 5 years i'm still in love. Sometimes it takes a back seat to the genuine care and devotion of the friendship and 'love' we have... but I seriously am still 'in love' with him now more than ever. at first it was infatuation and friendship and THEN the deep love came in. I just keep getting butterflies for him. I get happy just thinking about him. and even throught some hard patches, it comes back around and i get smitten.
     
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    True, but then again, the person in love will see it as a worthy cause. However, Im not in a total state of bliss, I do live in reality. Things that I will do is defend her till the end, and that means in anyway, shape or form. In fact, me and my GF almost got mugged after I took her out on our 2nd year aniv. two weeks ago. Good thing is that there were people around, and I was able to scare the guy off.

    Anyone really, Im willing to fight for, so long as my actions are justified by a good reason or cause, i.e., someone obviously getting bullied, a victim really. But I can say Im willing to risk my own life for my gf if need be. I dont see that kind of thing ever happening, but its how far I will go.
     
  9. jmezz

    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Maybe he should have used the word 'lover' instead. :rofl:
     
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    :rofl: I'm actually laughing over here :rofl:
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    I'm not sure that would help :o

    Does "lover" necessarily mean someone you're in love with? Usually "how many lovers have you had" = what's your #
     
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    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    Since the beginning, my gf and I have stated how much we hate when people say 'i love you' to each other after dating for such a short while, or when we'd see them out acting together. It's easy to tell when a couple is in love or not.

    That said, I am very, very much in love with my gf.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    :ugh:

    try not to let it bother you TOO much :greddy:
     
  14. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    I loathe not only the people who say they are "in love" after a month of dating, but moreso the couples who say it to each other every waking minute. My bf and I are in love with one another...but we don't have to be reminded every 5 seconds.
     
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    I'm so in love with my BF, and every time I see him I realize I'm more in love with him than I was the day before. Our relationship has recently moved into this new stage, and even deeper level of love that we didnt know was attainable, but we both have realized it within the last month...its very hard to explain but it feels amazing and I'm hoping we can keep it at this level or just progress more. We've been together for about five years, and i still get butterflies every time I know I'm going to see him.
     
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    oh and, ill add to that: the people who just start dating someone, and say theyre in love, and then a month later theyre dating someone else who they say theyre in love with. I'm sorry, but thats infatuation... love comes after a long time.
     
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    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    :werd:

    Love means not being grossed out by your SO using your bathroom to poop.
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    i hate being around people who hate people for petty reasons :mamoru:
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    you mean, objectively, for all other people, based on arbitrary rules in your head?

    or just for you personally, because everyone's different?
     
  20. iwishyouwerebeer

    iwishyouwerebeer you shut your cunt Moderator

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    Why are you so lame and unfunny? Take a joke. Please.
     
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    jmezz layin in bed stretchin my pumped quads for hours

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    It looks like I struck a nerve, so after how many months did you tell your 'lover' that you love her? 1? 2? 2.5?

    No shame whatsoever about my stance on that subject. I don't care who you are, if you've only been dating a couple months you are not in love with your bf/gf. You might really enjoy their company, you might really enjoy the way they make you feel, you might even really like how you built the person up in your head, but you are not in love.

    No one will tell me otherwise.
     
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    tubachris85x New Member

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    I'll take it!
     
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    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    what are you talking about

    i think you're hilarious ;)
     
  24. JohnJohnJohnson

    JohnJohnJohnson Effetely Sipping My Latte OT Supporter

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    hey, it is what it is, right?

    i seem to have a problem with labels anyway.

    i wonder how much of being in love is believing you're in love.

    actually you have struck a nerve.

    i just stopped hanging out with a friend of mine who i've known for a long time because it's too unpleasant trying to pick him up out of his bitter, petty thought loops about other people. :(

    unlike beer he's not hilarious about it either :(
     
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    different strokes for different folks

    it's sort of like how a mother or father would say "I love you" after dropping their kid off to school every morning, or kissing them on the head before going to bed at night.

    It's a form of affection.
     

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