So how long does it take a woman to become sexually comfortable?

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  1. antihero

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    So I'm kinda hoping someone can give me some hope, when I really think i know better...

    How long do you think it takes for a woman to become sexually comfortable with a man? Not in that unleash her kinkiest secrets kind of way, but just in that way where the newness isnt making it more difficult to enjoy herself.
     
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    Honestly, I'd have a different answer 6 months ago, but im totally going to go with the girls personal history/experiences.
     
  3. Abomb

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    the first night I slept with my current gf I had her doing all sorts of crazy shit. of course we were both pretty drunk.

    she still looks back to that this day and goes "i still cant fucking believe how you made me feel so comfortable so fast"

    i guess it depends on the rapport between the two people
     
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    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :werd: Some girls can let loose right away. Some girls can never let loose.
     
  5. antihero

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    last night i really wanted seconds but I was just like ugh.... waaaay too much trouble. forget it.

    not good. not good at all.

    and this girl is smoking hot :wtc:
     
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    Thats the fucking worse.
     
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    Confident and sweet men are quicker to get comfortable with. How long is hard to answer.. After you been dating for awhile and know each other pretty well. Maybe the second or third night?
     
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    why no seconds?
     
  9. antihero

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    she says condoms iritate her so she likes to slather on the lube, which means combined with the condom, i can't really feel shit.

    then even with vibe + dick it takes her foooorrreeeeeever to get off. to the point where im trying hard to maintain interest. The first time she even commented "that took a while!" but i figured it would improve quickly and we still have only had sex 4 times, but its already getting a bit old.

    :hs:

    soooooooooooo hot
     
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    This. :bowdown:
     
  11. Abomb

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    i would seriously be put off by her taking forever to cum.. i <3 my multi orgasmic wimmez
     
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    Yes.
     
  13. Alaya

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    Yeah, it's vague, but I think it's probably the most accurate. Granted, some women may just take longer than others period [which it may sound like is the case with this girl], regardless of rapport.
     
  14. Alaya

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    Is she gonna get pissy if she doesn't cum every time?

    I think I touched upon this in another thread before, but sometimes it's hard for me to cum, and it'd end up in a situation like you described with both parties frustrated, that it's easier to just enjoy the sex itself and not cum :dunno: Which is 100% fine with me if it's one of those times it's just not gonna happen, or take God knows how long... it's just a matter of communicating that to your partner in a good way. Then, orgasming more consistently is something you can work on together should you be in a relationship and it's something you're willing to do. I went from practically never cumming, to cumming most/many but not all times after figuring it out together.
     
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    probably not, but I would. :hs:
     
  16. Alaya

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    see my edit :hs:

    I think you need to decide if it's worth the effort. With practice, and actually on a mission to figuring it out together [which, I assume would only be worth the effort for someone you've made your SO and really WANT to figure it out, and if she's willing and isn't just the "i'll lay there and you make me cum" type, plus the effort during this period is often more technical than just enjoyable]... but, is totally worth it once it all comes together.

    my 2 cents :dunno:
     
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    shes 28 and I'm 100% sure shes seen a penis or two or three before. If she hasn't learned by now I cant say I have any interest in tackling that long shot challenge. :hs:

    only hope is that shes got some kink/preference/habit she just hasn't mentioned yet. If she needed some of the rough stuff thats been going around in here lately or something... well that would work for me.
     
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    you should hint around see if she likes anal, she answers no, abort
     
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    already working on it.
     
  20. Alaya

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    fair enough :)

    Does she at least seem open about talking about that kind of stuff so you can figure it out sooner than later? I'd think if she's open sexually, that it wouldn't be weird/too much at all to bring up in a casual manner, "so how do you feel about such and such..."
     
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    you should get over that.
     
  22. antihero

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    I'd say shes open and cool, but definitely not completely uninhibited. she definitely doesnt "go sexual" to any large degree, which is always a bad sign.

    Just taking shots in the dark and hoping i find something that works doesn't seem to be the way to go. I'm just going to try to get her to open up if there is something she knows works.
     
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    sorry, non negotiable. Sucks, because im not one of those people who thinks its "all in your head" and understand that girls are just built differently... That being said, I know im not going to be happy with a sex life that does not include frequent vaginal o's.
     
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  25. Deborah

    Deborah Seeing is believing, but I don't want to know.

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    you know a high percentage of women can't orgasm just by sex but they still enjoy it, right?
     

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