SRS So how does one go about breaking off a relationship before it gets serious?

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  1. The Green Bastard

    The Green Bastard Click click click bang

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    Tonight will be the 3rd time we've seen each other since we started talking a week ago.

    I don't think I'm ready yet, having not gotten over the last gf yet. I don't want or need a relationship now...or for a while.

    What do I say to her to break it off gently??
     
  2. Peyomp

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    As long as you have kindness in your heart, and have a firm resolve... then its easy. The problem is in having your nuts descend enough to be able to do it. If you're SURE, if you're BRAVE... the kindness comes easy.

    Remember: the worst thing you can do is put it off, because its difficult.

    If you've expressed yourself accurately here... then thats the best thing that you can do for her. Tell her what you told us.

    But to be honest... after three dates, is an explanation really neccessary? Just be busy. If she doesn't get the message within a couple calls, then explain. Thats what I'd do.
     
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    Aw crap, we had a planned date for tonight, and everything went SO nicely, dinner, walk on the boardwalk, movie....I can't get over how nice a night it was.

    I think instead of breaking this off, I may try the waters instead, for a while, at least and see how it feels.
    She's a super sweetheart, and looks great too.
     
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    :bigthumb: It's amazing how one really amazing night can change how one feels!
     
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    Be Honest!
     
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    :rofl:To her, or to OT?
     
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    hehe If you don't want to date her, send her my way :)
     
  8. ZeeMox

    ZeeMox Opinions are like assholes. Fuck em. OT Supporter

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    Seems really soon for you to be dating again (I saw your last threads) but more power to you if you can really do it.
     
  9. The Green Bastard

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    I thought about it all today and tonight, and after the nice night we had, I think I may in fact be ready. But at the first sign that this is becoming a rebound, I'm bailing.
     
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    how do you really judge if someone is a rebound or not? i have never been able to really figure that out until the relationship is over. i always try to go into things full hearted. but maybe that is just me.
     
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    I rebounded once and it wasn't nice at all. I realized it was one, when I really dreaded driving to her house and being with her, and started thinking about the ex.
     
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    Who is this mystery woman? The friend of your boss's wife?
     
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    You sound confused... which is right where you should be after 4 dates. Hit that shit, and re-evaluate.
     
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    Yep. Her co-worker at the Bank.
     
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    :bigthumb:
     
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    Why dump her? Why not just make it known that this is a non-serious thing for you, and then also date other women?

    You may find out that she's the right one for you. Dumping a woman with whom you have good chemistry doesn't make sense to me. Either that, or slow it down a little.

    Think before you do anything ...
     
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    My brain is mush. Has been since the breakup.
     
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    Have sex with her. :)

    She sounds like a good girl man, don't blow her off. You're not going to get over your EX if you sit at home watching tv.
     
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    I'm not entirely sure if I want to 'connsumate' the relationship that way, and create a bond that I'll be unable to express back. She's a super sweet girl, but I don't know if I want to be in a relationship right now.
     
  20. Peyomp

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    Thats what anal sex is for. Sweaty lust, minus connection.
     
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    Heh, in the other thread (Vag), I called this one a rebound that you weren't really into.
    And then I came upon this thread....

    Nice.
     
  22. teo

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    So be up front about it. Tell her that you like her and think she's really sweet, but you're afraid of rebounding because you had a large emotional investment in your last relationship and you're still recovering from the loss. No girl wants to be a rebound and she should appreciate the honesty.
     
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    Best advice yet. Thanks!
     
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    Tell her that, 'Your pussy feels SO good!' over and over. Girls like it when you're romantic.
     
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    :rofl: That ain't helping me! :rofl:
     

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