i just need to let this out...ive been with my gf for a little over a year now...i love her to death and cant think of anyone id rather be with. shes done with school and works, i still have a year left of university. she works usually 9-10 hr days and never has 2 days off in a row. 1/2 of those days she has to wake up pretty early 6am-ish which is tough for her cuz she loves her sleep. sooo when she gets home, she is understndable tired. latley though, it seems like all i ever hear about is how tired she is. ill go hang out with her and we will just watch tv and then she will fall asleep at like 10:30 and thats it...it gets boring after a while. naturally, as a guy in his prime, i like some action. i consider myself more sexual ofa person than she is, though when we first started going out, it seems to me like the opposite...the old bait and switch lol..anyway, we decided to have sex about 3-4 months into the relationship, first time for both of us actually, since we had both waited. since then we really dont have sex a lot. probably on average, less than 1x a week, tough sometimes it will be 2x, usually one time is sex and another is oral or other stuff, which is fine by me. latley though, it sems as if shes not interrested at all...she will never initiate anything, and it seems like i always need to work for it...it is never just something that we can work up to (i.e. if were out for the day together and i suggest something pysical and then we both cant wait to get home to do it) its never like that. its always something that i need to do this and that and then maybe i will get some. it gets aggrivating after a while. so i said soemthing to her tonight, cuz its been especially bad the past few weeks and been driving me nuts. she said that i knew from the beginning that we wouldnt have sex a lot b/c its stressfull for her, ech month worrying about whether she will get her period or not (we use condoms every single time and take no chances). I know i cant fuly unerstand that cuz im not a girl, but i dont wanna be a dad either, and the way i look at it is we are being responsible about it by using condoms and using them correctly, we should have nothing to worry about. i even pull out everytime to be even more safe. so then i say, well thats fine, if you feel that way, then i dont want you to be unconfortable, but that doesnt mean we cant do other stuff too, like oral etc, and that doesnt mean she cant initiate anything. well, she got all pissed at me, obviously she thinks sex is all i care about which is completley untrue, im just obviously more sexual, and also in my prime, and shes my first girl so i wanna expiereince sex, and a lot. im not saying everyday, but 3x a week or even 2x would be nice. it seems as if evryones getting laid like every other day around here and i feel like im totally missing out, but at the same time, i wont leave her b/c of it cuz i care about her and she means a lot to me, and sometimes things are better, but we have a lotts of "off" months that we seem so uncompatible sexually. so my real question here is, what can i do for her, to help her out? what can i do so that she is not so terribly tired everyday, and so worn out, that she cant put effort into this? i know she works a lot, and is on her feet and gets no breaks for food or anything, so its rough on her...i just want to help her be less beat at the end of the day. i help her out a ton at her house and with her pet and eveyrthing else, i do so much to help her out, so i dont kow what else to do. she just needs more energy....any suggestions? sorry this is long, i just needed to vent...thanks btw: were 22 so no immature HS remarks cliffs: just read it i cant summarize it and still get effective answers.