So ex starts talking to me again O.O

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  1. striderex

    striderex New Member

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    ya sort of ended with her on a somewhat bad note and i havent been talking to her since, its been like 1-2 months
    and today she all of a sudden messages me on msn and starts asking how i am doing and crap
    since then she has gotten a new bf and im not sure if they are still together
    so im wonder if shes doing this to spite me to make herself feel better or possibly try to get back together or what? :ugh:
     
  2. chlywly

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    It could be for any number of reasons, if you don't want her in your life then don't respond... simple
     
  3. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Run. Run and Don't Look Back.
     
  4. PcH

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    This has happened to me. Like chlywly said, she's contacting you for one reason or another. There was a reason you two broke up. Move on IMO.
     
  5. THoC

    THoC New Member

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    maybe she misses you.
    maybe her bf is not what she is looking for.
    maybe she's trying to get under your skin.

    what matters is what you want. if you dont want her back in your life just do not respond.
     
  6. just_another_on

    just_another_on New Member

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    Honestly, its what most people do after a break up. They give it time and they try to talk to you afterwards.

    Do you need to talk to her? Is their anything you need to say to her?

    No?

    Move on.
     
  7. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Talk to her and let her know things are going well in your life.
     
  8. JoJoBee

    JoJoBee Hanging out with my chicks! OT Supporter

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    I wouldn't respond.
     
  9. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    FYI: By not responding, you're telling her that you're still bitter over the break-up and while she has moved on and can be cordial with you, you will act childish and hold a grudge.
     
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    just_another_on New Member

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    This I agree w/ it.
     
  11. ldaggerl

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    my ex still talks with me, even tries to ask questions about girls I've met. I always play it low key even if I've been a whore. I tell her I'm doing great, working and going to school, hanging out. Don't EVER EVER EVVVVERRRR let them know your down or upset or what not. You have to for all reasons appear strong and healthy.
     
  12. THoC

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    why is it that after a break up people feel like they should care what the other person thinks?

    not responding will make you look bitter? sure.... but why would i care?

    never tell her that you're down? always sound like you're doing great? again.... why care if she knows you're down?

    some of you are too immature. trying to come up w. plans to make yourself come across well to a person that you want nothing to do with.

    just dont talk to her.


    of course.... if you're trying to get back w. her then what i said above should be ignored. but by the sounds of it you dont.
     
  13. JoJoBee

    JoJoBee Hanging out with my chicks! OT Supporter

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    That is bs - If you really weren't friends before starting to date, then what is the point of keeping her in your life? Not like she works with him or is the bosses daughter or something. What's the point?
     
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    thank you!

    the only point to these people is to "get back" at the ex by making her think they are doing great.
     
  15. JoJoBee

    JoJoBee Hanging out with my chicks! OT Supporter

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  16. MCohen

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    :ugh::ugh::ugh:

    I don't know: to show yourself that you've moved on, maybe?
     
  17. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :rofl: Isn't feeling the need to show you've moved on proof that you haven't?
     
  18. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Nope. Ignoring your ex who is trying to extend the olive branch because you have the mentality of a 13 y/o girl is proof you haven't moved on and will continue to fail at relationships in the future.
     
  19. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    :rofl: That's so much shit, man. Moving on with your life does not mean you have to maintain relationships with people from your past. Quite the opposite.
     
  20. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Being able to have a cordial conversation with someone from past relationships is an important part of moving on. If you can't do that, its because you foster feelings of hate or hurt towards that person still.
     
  21. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Why? Do you feel the need to talk to everyone that wants to talk to you?
     
  22. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Yep.
     
  23. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    Well some of us prefer to spend our time and energy maintaining relationships that we find worth our time instead of wasting time on relationships we don't want to be in just for someone else's benefit.
     
  24. MCohen

    MCohen #NotMyPresident #AmericaIsAlreadyGreat #GoSolar OT Supporter

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    Oh.
     
  25. ForgottenSpiral

    ForgottenSpiral Hope and Irony OT Supporter

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    I don't want to talk to any asshole out there. In fact, there are plenty of people I want nothing to do with. For the most part, exs fall into that category. I'll talk to them from time to time, but not because I feel like I should. Besides saying someone isn't over someone because they have emotions is ridiculous. I have emotions about everything. It's called being human.
     

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