So, are there any poly's here?

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  1. Kazzander

    Kazzander I only got this for the search.

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    I'm 31, married, and just recently discovered/realized that I am polyamorous. I feel elated and terrified all at the same time. Any other poly's here that can relate or give me some advice?
     
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    You just want to be. You don't have to be. You just wish to have it.
     
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    Try freakyshit...
     
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  6. Kazzander

    Kazzander I only got this for the search.

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    What are you getting at with this? More importantly, how does this fit in with "relate" or "advice"?
     
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    I took it as a don't go fucking up your marriage because you think you have to act on this newfound thing...
     
  8. huntz0r

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    What do you mean by "discovered/realized that I am polyamorous"? Polyamory is not a sexual orientation, it's a lifestyle.

    Then again, I guess we have been relaxing definitions for all sorts of lifestyles lately...
     
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    you discovered you want to fuck more than one girl? who doesnt? :rofl:
     
  10. Spiritus

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    I am getting at the fact that you are acting immature and you got into a fucking marriage before realizing the fact that you can only have one woman without cheating. And now you want to justify that fact by marrying more then one woman, which will not work.

    It fits in with relations and advice very simply... Your relations with the SO will go down the toilet, and we are telling you that it isn't a good idea.

    You do not discover "I am a poly" overnight. It is not like you were subconsciously or infra consciously gay the entire time and it just suddenly came out when you got married.

    No, you are lustful.

    Work on that is my only advice.

    Part of your ego might feel insulted by this advice. Self observe that part and see if that is you, or your desires which is demanding this lifestyle.
     
  11. Kazzander

    Kazzander I only got this for the search.

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    Alaya, you're the first, and only one, to get it right. I'm not talking about polygamy.

    However, since it seems that there a few professionally trained counselors here that, without any background info, know my situation, feelings, and emotions better than I do, I'm just going to abandon this backfire and get my advice elsewhere. Have no fear, Vaginaruim regulars, I won't make the mistake of posting in here again.
     
  12. HouseLing

    HouseLing When masturbations lost its fun you'r fucking lazy

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  13. Spiritus

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    If I misunderstood you, I am sorry.

    If it is a completely different meaning then pologamy, then I was obviously misinformed, not that it is totally my mistake due to the title. :hsd:
     
  14. huntz0r

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    Dude I know what polyamory is. It's a fancy word for open relationships. Don't get all butthurt because of the fact that your initial post 1) has a "coming out of the closet" tone where none is warranted and 2) made no mention whatsoever of your wife's opinion on the matter, or if she's even aware of your "discovery."
     
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    Sounds like dating to me... :dunno:
     
  16. brobinson

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    Nope, it's being able to "poly: many" "amore: love", being able to love two or more people at the same time, equally, for their own independent traits/personalities/etc.

    It's NOT a matter of cheating, fooling around, 'just lust', and so on. Like some people have said, you've be better off asking in FS.
     

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