SRS So, after 3 yrs...

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  1. 05s4

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    My girlfriend broke up with me last night. I really don't know what to think. We just came back from a trip for new years, everything was fine. She kept talking about marriage like she always did, kept telling me she loved me etc etc, and now says she's "unhappy". She did this about an hr after we got home from our trip. I just can't make sense of it...:wtc:
     
  2. keleko

    keleko yes, he is

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    you know the drill
     
  3. keleko

    keleko yes, he is

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    but srsly - you didn't see ANYTHING coming? no hints at all?
     
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    What was your last fight about? - i took her away for 4 days to orlanod for new years, we couldnt get into the magic kingdom because it was alreayd full, and she blamed me because i slept a little too late, however i did call every hour, and we did eventually get to go, that same night all she talked about was how much she loved me, and about how when weh ave kids we have to go there yatta yatta

    Do you have a "recurring" fight that keeps coming up in the relationship? - none that i can think of honestly

    Has your relationship changed at all since you started going out? - if anything i felt as if she had gotten into that comfort zone, i was pretty much all she thought about, we saw each other every time we didn't work. she put on a little bit of weight over 3 yrs, but nothing major


    Anything going on in her family? - not that i know of. her family all loves me, they were pretyt devastated
     
  5. MattThom01

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    Did you two live together?? It's possible she wanted you to raise the level of commitment, either by moving in or proposing or something.
     
  6. 05s4

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    no, she was still in school and living at home, she moved back down here from orlando to be with me, living together/proposing was in the future and she was ok with that, i dont think that was it

    i did e-mail one of her best friends to get some better insight on it, hopefully she'll have some answers
     
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    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    People who abandon you on memorial days like valentines day, your birthday or new years day are pieces of shit who aren't even worth acking your heart over. Who would leave on an important day where you are expecting to share an extra good time together and celebrate an occassion? So the kind of people who do this, do this because they know it would hit extra hard. And because of this you know she was already planning this while she kept you a little longer on her fishing line by saying things you wanted to hear, like i love you , while in reality she had this break up planned out. You need to glad that a kind of person like this is OUT of your life. No regrets about nothing, that woman is just nuts. She probably was seeing someone else.
     
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    Very true. The whole "I didn't want to ruin his/her holiday" sentiment is BS. Like it's not going to hurt just as much on a normal day? Plus, in a way, if she went with him for a New Years trip, but was already planning on ending it, she was taking advantage of him.

    What did you guys do for New Year's anyway?
     
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    sorry to hear :hug:
    im not a great advice giver, so I'll just say that
    i hope everything works out for you two. :hs:
     
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    Darketernal Watch: Aria The Origination =)

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    Don't worry any act of love or encouragement is greatly appreciated. :wavey:
     
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    Damn, so sorry to hear that man
     
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    Are you sure something didn't happen that maybe you're forgetting? Her just breaking up with you out of nowhere doesn't make much sense.
     
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    she had been wanting to go away for a while so i booked a 4 day/3 night trip to orlando. we stayed in a suite at the hard rock, relaxed, and on new years eve went to the magic kingdom to watch the fireworks
     
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    i've been sitting around all day going back over things, and there's nothing that would've pointed to this which is why it hurts more than i would've expected. her family loves me, we had great times together, never really fought, everything was good.. maybe too good, i dunno what to think anymore
     
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    hm....im sorry for your loss, but there is obviously something that she wasnt telling you, which logically means that for some reason she felt like she couldnt communicate this will you, which also means that you had poor communication, which also means that this is why she possibly didnt feel CONNECTED with you anymore........just my 2 cents from a female perspective...theres something youre missing that she just didnt bother to tell u...girls dont just dump their bfs for no reason
     
  17. Crush

    Crush Epidural hematoma up in this bitch

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    Tell her "I can't read your mind, but something is obviously bothering you, please tell me what it is so we can work on it."

    From my experience, women usually telegraph the break-up like its Fed-Ex ground.
     
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    Damn, thats harsh. I hope you get some answers about this soon. Just seems so strange she'd do that out of the blue by what you've said. :hug:
     
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    great post
     

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